Is the love of two devotees material or spiritual?
A girl devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Is it k if a devotee fall in love with a devotee ? Still even tht love will be material?”
REPLY:
Ha Ha. Interesting one.
If two materialistic persons love, it is material.
If two devotees love? Is it spiritual?
This is your question.
Not all loves between the devotees are spiritual. There are serious conditions to make it spiritual.
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Love between two persons on this earth is material only unless they follow a certain rules.
See, we are using this material love to marry a person and do spiritual service.
This does not mean our love is spiritual. Only if we fulfill a certain rules of grahasthas, we can call our love as spiritual.
Only if you never think of physical relations with your wife and live within the same house, it is spiritual.
In Sri Ramanuja’s Pastimes on this earth, there was an associate of Sri Ramanuja, called Kuraththaalvar (Actual name was Kuresan).
He married a nice devotee of Lord with the name Andal.
Andal had serious dosha in her horoscope that her husband will die if he has physical relations with her. So, her marriage was getting delayed.
(Read HERE about Naga Dosha and its remedies!)
At a point of time, her marriage was arranged with a groom, who is one of the employees of Kuresan. However, on hearing about the dosha, that person escaped from the village and went somewhere.
(Read HERE about Mangal Dosha and its remedies)
Kuresan, who had decided not to marry in his life, took the responsibility and assured that he will marry Andal.
Andal requested him that they should avoid physical contacts throughout the life because she can’t allow her dosha affect his life.
Kuresan agreed and then married Andal.
As assured, they served the Lord together without even a trace of contamination of physical relations.
They did not even tell that they love each other. They just married ONLY TO SERVE THE LORD. No physical relations even to get devotee children.
Because, a few doshas are very severe that can not be nullified by Parihars. So, Andal decided so.
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This love can be added in Spiritual love. Because they did not have any expectations/ attachments between them.
In case two devotees live like this, we can add this in the list of spiritual love.
In brief, if we use physical contacts and love as recommended by the scriptures, it can be considered spiritual because Krishna says that such lust is actually Himself.
See, because we use this body for Krishna, we do not get karma, but, the body will remain as material only. It will contaminate after we leave that body.
Because you marry for serving the Lord, you will not acquire any karma in having love and physical relations, but, the love is not spiritual unless you had followed the grahastha rules strictly.
Why?
We will appreciate the beauty of wife;
We will talk some material things with wife.
We will have some extra time physical relations with wife.
Even we started to love her on seeing her good appearance. If you do not bother a girl being a severely physically challenged and chose her to marry to serve the lord, that will be fine. But, how many of us are ready to marry such a girl to serve the lord?
So, appearance and health too matters in our relations with a girl/ boy.
Then, how can such a relation be called spiritual love?
So, only a very few devotees are eligible to call their love as spiritual. All devotees can not claim their love as spiritual after praising their spouse for nice appearance and anatomy and after having some extra relations beyind the recommendations, etc, etc.
SO, LOVE BETWEEN A BOY AND GIRL ON EARTH IS BETWEEN A MIND AND ANOTHER MIND.
Since the mind is material, that love is also material.
Then which love is definitely spiritual on earth?
Love with Krishna.
Why?
Love with Krishna is between athma and Paramathma Krishna.
Athma and paramathma are purely spiritual.
There can be no contaminations or mistakes in the love between the athma and paramathma.
And, Krishna is Like Sun.
So, Sun burns all the contaminations when someone associates with it.
So, we will be pure spiritual athmas when we associate with Krishna.
So, love between us and Krishna is Purely Spiritual.
Hope you are clear now.