VIOLATIONS BETWEEN GIRLS AND BOYS – HOW TO AVOID IT?
Qn. In Detail by a girl (Name hidden):
Hare krishna prabhu ji I am a girl who has ruined herself by falling into trap of boys I always speak truth and know no ways of world I have been befooled by the world my innocence has always put me in troubles. I am scared of this world and think a lot. can I worship God by becoming ghost I m so petrified of this world and crimes also I’m very sensitive nd emotional I know no cleverness. my father is very egoistic. he finds faults with me for no reason. can god be partial to me and can I worship him by becoming a ghost.
Plz keep my name hidden prabhu ji l know this may not be a suitable question but the root cause of my problem has always been my innocence, truthfulness and trusting nature which I can’t get rid of. Plz prabhu ji kindly be a torch -bearer for me.
I used to be divinely beautiful girl. I shared no rapport with girls as they are all very clever. bt wat did boys give me. they befooled me by praising my beauty and made me a victim of their DESIRES. And l by over think lost my beauty health and career. Plz guide me sir can u give me your contact no. hare krishna. …
Stop desiring to become a ghost because, being a ghost is the most difficult life. You will have all desires such as hunger, feelings, etc., but, you can’t eat and have pleasures because you will not have sense organs.
Therefore, the most dangerous desire for a person is to become a ghost by committing suicide.
Actually, it is the tendency of the people to make use of the weakness of others.
How does a seller promote his goods?
“60-80% discount for saris for today only”
He targets your weakness in expecting the discounts.
“Buy one Salwar, get two salwars free….free….free. For the first 100 visitors of today only”
(4 GATEWAYS OF SINS IN OUR BODY DEVIATING US FROM KRISHNA! READ HERE!)
He makes use of your weakness in getting anything free of cost. (Actually, none is free in this world and the cost is added in the first salwar).
“Buy Thali and gold from our shop that is auspicious”
He makes use of your weakness in superstitious things of seeing auspiciousness in the choice of shops..
Similarly, the boys make use of the weakness of girls and vice versa to bring them under his/ her circle that later leads to the violations between boys and girls
The boys use some standard statements to bring the girls/ women under their control.
“You are so beautiful and Lord Brahma has shaped you when he was very happy”
“You should have competed in Miss Universe Contest. You deserve it”
(Why the devotees should avoid offenses strictly? READ HERE!)
“I have never seen a beauty like you”
“I like your intelligence”
“I like your calm nature”
“I like your dressing sense. Where do you buy your dresses?”
“I was looking for a girl like you only”
“Your eyes look like the star fishes”
“Your lips are like creamy chocolates”
“Your hairs are like clouds in cool rainy days”
That’s all. Most of the girls would have fallen hearing these praises.
Are the girls innocent when they start to love someone first? They too speak cool statements, but, not like boys. They use clever words to bring proposing/ committing words from the boy chosen by her:
“My mother told me to study for exams. Seeing you here, I just came. Because I feel energetic when I speak to you”.
“My father is telling me to marry. But, I do not like anyone he sees for me. No one is decent like you.”
(Should I tell about my premarital violations to my guru before taking diksha? READ HERE!)
“ I was scoring good marks, but…..now my marks came down because of our friendship. I am always thinking of you”
“What is your dream about your future wife?” (She expects an answer “Like you”).
Thus, when someone has fallen in love, his / her only target is winning the love of the opponent.
Therefore, his / her whole intelligence is spent in evaluating the merits and demerits in choosing that person.
Intelligence works just to “bracket” that girl or boy.
Once bracketed, the intelligence says ‘Good bye” and emotion takes care of further course of actions.
Then, they start to praise each other. They fly in the sky. Because of excessive mutual appreciations, everything seems positive. No negative is visible.
(I, an initiated male devotee committed violation with my co-staff. What to do? READ HERE!)
Since no negative is felt they are not ready to feel negatives, there is no place for intelligence. Only the emotions dominate.
That boy might have so many affairs and exploited many girls’ lives; He too will not tell this to her.
That girl would have already cheated a boy making him mad. She may not tell that to this boy.
That boy may not have a job, but, she will not take it seriously after falling in love because she likes his romantic talks and approach.
Then, some kind of false faith is artificially built between them. This makes the girl weak to refuse when that boy touches her. He first makes casual touches. Since there is no opposition from her because of sleep of intelligence and domination of emotions and the pleasant feel the touch gives, she becomes unable to refuse the touches.
(HOW SHOULD WOMEN LIVE PERFECTLY AS PER THE SCRIPTURES? READ HERE!)
This makes her unstable in decision making in this matter. If it is a place of privacy, he goes beyond the touches further. The brain stops functioning giving way for the nerves to feel their pleasure.
Only some wise and fortunate girls escape even at that stage.
That is why, a girl should never allow touches by boys though they praise her from sky to earth.
I hope that the series of events mentioned here in violations between boys and girls by me would have rightly happened in your case also.
That is why, I regularly advise the followers of our sites TO TRUST ANYONE 99% AND BE CAREFUL CONSIDERING THE 1% RISK OF ANYONE BEING A CHEATER WHEN AN OPPORTUNITY COMES.
(Can a devotee having past illicit violations get the mercy of Krishna? READ HERE!)
In your case, you need not become a ghost to challenge those who made use of your innocence. YOU TOO HAVE A ROLE IN THESE EPISODES OF VIOLATIONS BECAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN INNOCENT/ IGNORANT TO ALLOW THEM TO ABUSE YOU PHYSICALLY.
Unless a girl is very careful with the boys, these violations between boys and girls will always happen .
If serious violations had happened without your interest and inducement, you are not the part of these abuses.
Since, they have used flowery words and made you trust them, the fault is with you also.
Why should a girl believe the flowery words of boys when they try to abuse her physically?
She must say a clear NO for premarital touches and physical interactions.
(What sin we acquire if we do not follow 4 regulative principles and Ekadasi fasts? READ HERE!)
Remember! The Consensual violations happen because of the cleverness of one and the innocence of the other.
This is clear.
Of course, those boys are also punishable in the Violations between boys and girls, but, you could have avoided such violations had you avoided such initial small touches and allowing private atmosphere with boys.
Therefore, there are only two choices:
(1) File cases against them for giving false assurances of marriage and misusing you. Abusing a girl giving assurance of marriage is also punishable under law. It is not eligible to be dismissed as consensual affair, but, induced abuse.
(2) If you hesitate for the consequences, leave the matter to karma network of Krishna. He will be punished accordingly in due course of time and you start to lead a strict life in the case of males hereafter.
(DOES GOD/ KARMA FORCE US TO COMMIT SINS? READ HERE!)
PAST IS PAST. Start a new course of life with strict principles keeping the learned lessons in mind.
Pray to Lord Krishna for forgiveness for having been ignorant in allowing them to cheat you. Then, lead a principled life. Chant as much as possible daily and be with Krishna in this earth itself.
No need for guilt because you are reformed now with resolutions of being strict with the boys in life.
After an year or two, marry a boy and lead a responsible life being loyal to that husband.
Time will heal the pains. Believe that and be careful in life hereafter.
All the best.
(If One involves in illicit relations as per karma, why it adds karma again? READ HERE!)