Can I have Krishna as my exclusive Lover, not sharing with others?
A female devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Hare Krishna Prabhuji, I need your help and guidance. I’ve heard that a devotee can love Krishna in many ways. I see Krishna as my lover since we all know Krishna is the Supreme Personality of Godhead. He belongs to everyone, and everyone belongs to Him.
I am not able to love Krishna completely because I feel he is not entirely mine, as he belongs to everyone (which is true). In a love relationship between a devotee and a lord, how should a devotee love Krishna as a lover in such a situation?
I feel that everyone in the world is searching for true love, and true love can only be with Krishna. I love Krishna, and I also want my beloved to love only me. However, I am unsure how to love Krishna. I’ve heard that when Krishna used to do raasleela, the gopis used to think that Krishna was only dancing with them…
so what should I do? If I love Krishna, is he also loving me? If I make him my priority, is he doing the same? If I am thinking he is only mine will he also think the same? Will he reciprocate that too what about others who are very, very dear to Krishna, like the gopis and Srimati Radharani? What would I be in Krishna’s eyes? What position would I hold in such a situation…Without this understanding, it makes me feel very uncomfortable, and i am struggling to love Krishna.”
REPLY:
This is an unwanted lamentation. You can have Krishna as exclusive Lover, though He loves all the living beings.
You can have Krishna as your exclusive lover. But, you can’t expect that you should be His exclusive lover.
You yourself know that Krishna made every gopi think that He is dancing with her only.
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Similarly, when the Lord had to marry all the 16,108 queens upon their request, He took the forms of 16,108 Krishnas and lived with every queen in separate palaces. Every queen did not know that Krishna was living with the other 16,107 queens also.
So, Krishna can do anything and He can appear in thousands of forms at the same time.
He can also love thousands of girls at the same time.
This does not mean that He will not exclusively love every one.
He can show exclusive care to everyone.
See, if you love a common man, you can expect that he should love you only because he has limited capabilities.
Even loving a single person properly will be difficult for a man.
But, the Lord is the source of love.
You are loving the Supreme Personality of Godhead who has unlimited capacity to love and who is the source of love.
Krishna is like a mobile phone tower or Social media or email without limitations.
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How?
A cell phone tower connects thousands of calls simultaneously.
Every call is individually routed, calculated and accounted.
In social media and email, though crores of people send messages simultaneously, they perfectly reach the particular person to whom we sent a message.
Similarly, billions of athmas (humans and other living beings) are connected to Krishna as Paramatma. Though those billions of athmas love Krishna, He can individually attend and reciprocate everyone.
He can give unlimited individual attention to billions at the same time.
So, don’t doubt whether you are individually loved by Krishna.
Krishna would have made himself available for you.
However, you can’t expect Krishna to love only you.
If you expect your lover to love you only, you have to love a boy.
If you get even (1/billion)% of the Love of Krishna, it is a very big percentage.
A boy’s love will come down when he shares his love to multiple persons.
But Krishna’s love never comes down though billions of people share it.
So, make yourself fit to be loved by Krishna UNCONDITIONALLY & BEYOND DOUBTS.
Hope you are clear now about whether you can have Krishna as exclusive Lover, not sharing with others.
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