I, a devotee, am unable to marry a devotee girl since I am a marine Engineer. What to do?
Hare Krishna prabhu ji. I’m a non initiated shri Krishna devotee. I left non vegan diets after realizing shri Krishna’s bhakti, though I’m still non initiated. Prabhu ji my question is that i went to Iskcon mayapur one year ago and there I had a conversation with my aunt that if i marry ever, it will only a shri Krishna devotee. And by luck I found one. I was happy that I got a life partner whom I’ll do bhakti of the lord. I thought it’s all Lord’s will that because I went to his temple and talk about it he gave me this girl. But things dont seem right now prabhu ji as her parents are not willing to let us marry as by profession I’m a marine engineer and they dont like it. What to do prabhu ji, I really wanted both of us to marry and do bhakti together and become pure devotees of the lord and always engage our time in his service. I’ve also heard that being krishna conscious it elevates the family members too. I really wanted it to happen. Please advice what’s happening prabhu ji. Doesn’t shri Krishna want us to marry and that’s why he is making her parents react that way? Hare Krishna. Radhe radhe.
This is very unfortunate.
They do not know the value of the prestigious job ass marine engineer.
Just because you will have to travel for many days on board the ship, they may hesitate to consider you for marriage.
But, this is unwanted.
Getting a devotee match is a fortunate thing for a girl and the girl and her parents should make use of this opportunity at any cost.
In India, there are lakhs of families in which the husband works in the Army/ Navy/ Air force, abroad, etc, and the wife and family live in their home town. They can meet the husband/ father only once in a year for about a month.
If they do not do such sacrifice, no one can work in Army/ Navy/ Air force, abroad, etc.
Compared with those jobs, being a marine engineer is not that much difficult because they can meet their families more frequently.
They have forgotten an important aspect.
Always being together may become boring one day. But, If the couples meet once in a month or two, the love between them actually increases and remain intact throughout their life.
Anything, even sweets, if used frequently may cause a hatred. But, meeting-parting type of life will always be filled with the undiluted love.
Her parents may not know the greatness of this marine engineering position.
Being the parents of the girl, they may be worried about the future of their daughter.
The weakness with most of the parents is that they always prefer a groom with a 10am-5pm job.
This is not possible now a days. Employers expect productivity from their employees.
The boys and girls too are looking for challenges in their career. They do not like boring jobs.
The parents should understand this good aspect of today’s youth.
I have an example within my family itself.
My sister admitted her son in Computer Engineering. He completed. My sister expected him to go to I.T Companies.
But, he had a goal of going for army as an officer.
He attended the written exams (NDA) and succeeded in his first attempt.
Then, he succeeded in the interview also.
Now, he is an officer who is promoted fast and is earning very well.
A girl had an objective of marrying such a boy from security services. She happily married him. Now, they are understanding couples. She knows his job nature. Therefore, she adjusts accordingly. He is also happy because of her cooperation.
He has taken his family also to his working place. Whenever he has some sensitive tasks in his job, he sends his wife to be with my sister for a short period.
My sister wanted him to work in an I.T company. He did not like I.T Job , but, army officer position.
Since he got his favourite job, he is working with absolute dedication and is growing fast in his job.
This is the good trend of today’s youth.
We ccan not understand them, but, they are very brilliant and they always like to woek in their favourable job.
Therefore, being a marine engineer is your favourite job and the girl should know the value of that job.
Therefore, someone should explain her parents properly.
Since that girl prefers you, she herself can explain her parents.
Or, if she does not know how to explain, she may request any of her influential relative(s) to explain her parents about the real nature of this job.
You yourself can meet her parents boldly and give them all the assurances that you will keep her responsibly and your job will in fact help her perform her devotional practices more conveniently.
If that girl is strong in her decision, her parents will consider you seriously. Advise her to be strong in her position.
Or, you can show this reply to the girl and her parents through her.
If they read this, they may understand the reality.
Now a days, getting a good boy or girl is a fortunate thing.
If they are fortunate, let them recognize you and accept you.
Hope for good turn of events and pray to Krishna for this good cause of serving Him together with a devotee wife.
All the best.