Many devotees are unmarried. But, Non devotees Get married earlier. Why?
The question from a devotee goes like this :
I need your guidance one of my cousin she’s getting married and We both are not liking each other at all from childhood to young age We only hate. I always pray to krishna that she get married in very good family as she expected because I don’t want her to be in my life I want to completely stay away from her now krishna listed my pray she got arranged very far away but after that I m not happy because she has a very bad habit to show off and I don’t like her attitude she always come to me and tease me something about that guy about his money his family and I really don’t want to listen. But can’t ignore her as she is our family we both are same age my family also looking for a guy for me. I might be upset because I m not getting anyone or this is because I don’t like her or I m upset with Krishna that I m his devotee after that why he always fail me in front of her. He should listen to me or not because she never pray nor his devotee but she getting everything. She tease me all the time. I need your help on. What should I do. Hare Krishna.
This is the outcome of three factors, though you may not agree:
(1) You are thinking that Only getting married is the mercy of Krishna. But, in many cases, devotees are unmarried as Krishna is saving them from destined future tortures.
(2) You feel as if she has succeeded and you are not, that is not true.
(3) Your situation of not getting a match has turned as jealousy towards her, that is not necessary.
(Why Krishna gives more problems to His devotees, but helping many non devotees? READ HERE!)
You are thinking that it is the mercy of Krishna only if He gives early marriage.
As explained by yourself, you and she were not in good relationship in the past. Though you prayed for her, because of her character of “showing off”, you have been hating her.
Should she suffer without marriage just because she is showing off?
Remember, the mind is like a monkey. Now, your mind is thinking that she got married but you are not. In case, your marriage got arranged before her, you will feel that she is pitiful and she is remaining without getting married. I hope that you will neither show off nor feel happy for getting married before her.
In fact, you should feel happy for her getting married, because, you will be free from her as you do not like her. If an unwanted person leaves for a far away place from you, you should feel happy because, Krishna has done only good for you.
Therefore, taking her away from you is the real mercy of Lord. Let her get married and live happy.
(Are Inter Caste marriages prohibited by the Scriptures? Is it allowed for devotees? READ HERE!)
You feel as if she has succeeded and you are not, that is not true.
Do you think that getting married first is a success? It is not so. She may have to face challenges in her life. The husband should be good and cooperative. The in-laws should be adjustive. She should get children in time.
Therefore, every boy or girl is taking a risk when they get married. Everything should happen as good to them. Otherwise, they may have to suffer, or they may have to adjust with the uncooperative husband or in-laws.
(Why even Krishna’s devotees face tortures from spouse? READ HERE!)
Therefore, do not consider her getting married first as a success for her. It may even be a challenge. Therefore, pray for her well being in her married life.
Your situation of not getting a match has turned as jealousy towards her, that is not necessary.
If your marriage is delayed, it may even be for your good. As per the astrology, some persons may have delayed marriage. If they marry earlier, they may suffer for some years or face divorce. To prevent that suffering, the person should postpone the marriage till a certain age.
Since you are a devotee, Krishna may delay your marriage for your goodness only. Therefore, do not develop jealousy on that girl who gets married earlier than you.
(You advise early marriage. What to do if planets delay the marriage? READ HERE!)
Everyone has different karma. As per her karma, she has early marriage. As per your karma, you may have marriage in the normal course or with a little delay. Consider this as a protection given by the Lord to you to avoid any separation later.
Therefore, go to her marriage, bless her happily and pray to the Lord for her goodness.
You too will get a good match as early as possible and try sincerely for that. Take sufficient time and get a right match who is from a good family background.
Hereafter, do not ask “Many devotees are unmarried. But, Non devotees Get married earlier. Why?”
Because, even remaining a bachelor all the time will be the mercy of Krishna if you have the karma of suffering in married life. So,if some devotees are unmarried, that means, Krishna is protecting them from possible tortures destined for him in future.
All the best.
(Is marriage necessary or unnecessary for devotees? READ HERE!)