Why many Krishna devotees have no marriage or issues after marriage?
The question from a Girl devotee goes like this :
“I need your guidance one of my cousin she’s getting married and We both are not liking each other at all from childhood to young age and we only hate. I always pray to krishna that she get married in very good family as she expected because I don’t want her to be in my life. I want to completely stay away from her now. Krishna listed my pray she got arranged very far away but after that, I m upset with Krishna that I m his devotee after that why he always fail me in front of her. He should listen to me or not because she never pray nor his devotee but she is getting everything. She tease me all the time. I need your help on. What should I do. Hare Krishna.”
REPLY:
This is the outcome of three factors, though you may not agree:
(1) You are thinking that Only getting married is the mercy of Krishna. But, in many cases, devotees are unmarried as Krishna is saving them from destined future tortures.
(2) You feel as if she has succeeded and you are not, that is not true.
(3) Since you are not getting a boy to marry has turned as jealousy towards her, that is not necessary.
(Why Krishna gives more problems to His devotees, but helping many non devotees? READ HERE!)
(1)
You are thinking that it is the mercy of Krishna, only if He gives early marriage.
As explained by yourself, you and she were not in good relationship in the past. Though you prayed for her, because of her character of “showing off”, you have been hating her.
Should she suffer without marriage just because she is showing off?
Remember, the mind is like a monkey. Now, your mind is thinking that she got married but you are not. In case, your marriage got arranged before her, you will feel that she is pitiful and she is remaining without getting married. I hope that you will neither show off nor feel happy for getting married before her.
In fact, you should feel happy for her getting married, because, you will be free from her as you do not like her. If an unwanted person leaves for a far away place from you, you should feel happy because, Krishna has done only good for you.
Therefore, taking her away from you is the real mercy of Lord. Let her get married and live happy.
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(2)
You feel as if she has succeeded and you are not, that is not true.
Do you think that getting married earlier is a success? It is not so. She has deserted her beloved parents and has gone to a new family. She may be happy or she may have to face challenges in her life. In fact, She is taking risk. So, you should pray fro her good life. The husband should be good and cooperative. The in-laws should be adjustable. She should get children in time. Thus, a girl has to face so many issues in life after marriage. Same applies for a boy too.
Therefore, every boy or girl is taking a risk when they get married. Everything should happen positively to them. Otherwise, they may have to suffer, or they may have to adjust with the uncooperative husband or in-laws.
(Why even Krishna’s devotees face tortures from spouse? READ HERE!)
Therefore, do not consider her getting married before you as a success for her. It may even be a challenge. Therefore, pray for her well being in her married life. It is the quality expected from a devotee.
(3)
Your situation of not getting a match before her has turned as jealousy towards her, that is not necessary.
If your marriage is delayed, it may even be for your good. As per the astrology, some persons may have delayed marriage. If they marry earlier, they may suffer for some years or face divorce. To prevent that suffering, the person should postpone the marriage till a certain age.
Since you are a devotee, Krishna may delay your marriage for your goodness only. Therefore, do not develop jealousy on that girl who gets married earlier than you.
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Everyone has different karma. As per her karma, she has early marriage. As per your karma, you may have marriage in the normal course or with a little delay. Consider this as a protection given by the Lord to you to avoid any separation later.
Therefore, go to her marriage, bless her happily and pray to the Lord for her goodness.
You too will get a good match as early as possible and try sincerely for that. Take sufficient time and get a right match who is from a good family background.
Hereafter, do not ask “Why many Krishna devotees have no marriage or issues after marriage?”
Because, even remaining a brahmachari all the time will be the mercy of Krishna if you have the karma of suffering in married life. So,if some devotees are unmarried, that means, Krishna is protecting them from possible tortures destined for him in future.
All the best.
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