How to marry earlier as said by the scriptures if the planets delay?
Actual Question:
Sir I am absolutely at one with view that marriages should be held at early 20s. Unfortunately, in kaliyuga most of young generations have delay and instability in marriages due to planetary position in horoscopes. Suppose, if one has Saturn -moon combination in seventh house, one is bound to suffer. Sir, kindly provide some solution to prevent delay and instability in marriage by your high esteemed opinion.
REPLY:
Getting married earlier is a general advice. By getting married earlier, they can develop their children in their young age itself and settle them before the parents attain the age fifty.
In any aspect of life, there are exemption. Some Persons will have the karma of “delayed marriage” or “no marriage” or “early marriage and separation”.
(HOW SHOULD A DEVOTEE TAKE IF HIS MARRIAGE ARRANGEMENT FAILS? READ HERE!)
There are three cases in regards to the delay in marriage:
GROUP – (1) :
The marriage may be delayed though we take world class efforts and though they have wealth and health. This is because of any strong dosha related to marriage.
For example, Naga dosha or Mangal dosha without internal remedy in the seventh or eighth houses. In addition to this, those house lords will be weak and Venus will also be be weak. In such cases, the marriage will never happen till 28 or 30.
GROUP – (2): This category of people, without caring their dosha of delayed marriage may forcibly marry someone they get. It may even be running out of house.
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In this case, the same Rahu or Ketu or Mars will be in lagna or second or seventh or eighth houses. At the same time, those house lords will be strong and/ or, Venus will be ok or strong. In such cases, Mars, Rahu and Ketu will delay the marriage, but, Venus will arrange the marriage based on “attractions”,, ie love marriage. However, the effects of Naga dosha or mangal disha will interrupt the marriage life and hence there may be separation.
Though they marry earlier in spite of doshas, their marriage may end in separation. If they postpone the marriage to the age above 30 (For some persons, even 35 and for a few persons, even 40 may be the safe age), they can get good life with less interference of doshas. This delay and goodness may depend on the strength of dosha the person has.
GROUP -(3): The marriage will never happen in spite of all efforts. This is the strongest dosha. They should consider themselves fortunate because Krishna has escaped them from family burdens and Krishna likes them to come to His service seriously.
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In the third case, Some planets like Mars, Saturn, rahu and ketu will be in the marriage related houses. At the same time, those house lords will be weak and Venus will also be weak. In such cases, the marriage will never happen throughout the life in spite of all the efforts.
These are all just a few example of planetary positions. There can be some other positions also that delay or split the marriage that we will check while analysing the horoscopes.
We need not discuss about the third case further because that person has no marriage and he/ she can never marry. They can happily involve in devotional practices without worrying about marriage.
In the first case, the person has marriage if he delays till a certain age. The persons may wait till 28 (in the case of girls) or 32 (In the case of boys) and then marry. If the marriage is further delayed, the dosha may be little stronger. So, wait. The issues will be minimized if we delay the marriage ourselves. Why? Because, we sacrifice the booming young age without marriage that acts as partial remedy for the dosha of delay in marriage.
(Does a wife acquire Pitru Dosha if she distances her husband from his parents? READ HERE!)
In the second case, the marriage is at risk. Because, the planets like Rahu-Ketu will delay the marriage. However, other planets like Venus will make him to try for marriage with urge bypassing the effects of Rahu-Ketu. In such cases, Rahu-Ketu will be silent for some period since venus is acting on the person to get them married. After some months or years of marriage, Rahu or Ketu may cause quarrels and misunderstanding between the couples. This may cause a separation between them.
If these second case persons too delay their marriage till 28 (girls) or 32 (boys), then, they can minimize the negative effects of Rahu-Ketu. But, the pitiful thing in some cases is that other planats will push them in marriage. If the person has strong will power to neglect the inducements of other planets and accept the karma and hence willingly delay the marriage, he can avoid splits.
The difference between the first and second case is, in the first case, no other planets are ready to push them in marriage, whereas, in the second case, one or two other planets help them to enter into the marriage. But, these do not take the responsibility for the long married life.
In the second case, the extra planets allow him to violate the karma, whereas, in the first case, because of the absence of extra planets in good condition, he is not allowed to violate.
(Can the devotees marry without matching horoscopes? READ HERE!)
That is why, if the marriage is delayed, one should accept it as the effect of his past karma and be patient till the marriage is arranged after some delay.
Therefore, if there are no doshas, the person should enter into marriage earlier and face the life. If there are doshas, they can accept the delay.
Hope this clears your doubt.
TAIL PIECE:
If the devotees marry to render the devotional service to the Lord together without the objective of sense enjoyments, no dosha will affect them and their marriage life will go without interruption. The ONLY condition is: Marrying to serve the Lord and serving the lord as planned earlier. Such marriages are also the devotional services that are beyond planetary effects. These above mentioned doshas are meant only to those who marry keeping sense enjoyments also in mind. This is for the kind information of all the readers. So, if you decide to serve the lord after marriage and like to lead a devotional life, Krishna will help you to bypass the karma and this pending karma will be burnt with your sincere devotional services to Krishna. This is the secret.
(Two persons of same NADI CAN marry in many cases. How? READ HERE!)