Tips for forgetting an unwanted Person in the Spiritual way!
A Girl devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Sir, i want to ask something. Does really coincidences matter? & another ques. I’m triying to get away from thoughts of a person but everytime, something happen which takes me back to his thaughts only. Why this is happening?
Sir plz reply me as soon as possible. And i’m a devotee of krishna”
REPLY:
First, the coincidences are just coincidences. They are natural everywhere.
All of us have been facing them in our life time.
So, don’t give much importance for such coincidences.
It is enjoyable and memorable. That’s all.
(What to do if a Girl-Boy love breaks after one becomes a devotee? READ HERE!)
Then, next question. If you like to consider that person, do that immediately and enter into the marriage soon.
Or, if you have no idea of considering him for marriage, throw him out of your thoughts.
If you find it difficult to forget, be always engaged.
Don’t remain free for atleast one year or two.
If you go on performing any assignments that are important for you, you will remain engaged in it.
So, Volunatarily take more assignments for a few months.
Time is the best healer. Today’s serious matter will appear as an ordinary matter after a month.
(Why Krishna gives failures in career, Love, etc., if we are His children? READ HERE!)
We will think why we cried that much for that person! He is also like many others.
This world is wide. If one person is not achievable for us, another person may come.
In general, if we lose something, that means, we are destined to get better one.
So, we need not keep the losses in mind. There are more blessings waiting for you.
If you engage you with other assignments forcefully, there will be no disturbances for your mind.
Engagement means, chanting also.
If you recollect the lilas of Krishna and engage in His thoughts, no other thoughts will disturb you.
(Why should we love Krishna If He does not need pleasure from outside? READ HERE!)
Chanting, Reading the Literatures on Krishna and engaging in any useful assignments, will keep you engaged in some other activities and hence, you can forget that person and remember Krishna alone.
If you take long break in sadhanas, reading and being engaged, the thoughts of that person may dominate again.
Engage your mind in the higher thoughts. Material losses will not disturb you.
As a child everone may be innocent like Krishna. But, when he grows, because of the association and living conditions, he may even become a thief.
I don’t come to say that he may be a thief. But, my advice is that we should not judge a person with his name and childhood activities. Don’t judge a book by its cover. Think whether his characteristics and devotional stand are matching with yours. Then, take a decision.
If you find him matching, tell him to meet your parents. If he does not seem to match you, just forget him and make yourself busy with productive duties and devotional practices.
Time will heal everything gradually.
Hope this has helped you for forgetting an unwanted Person in the Spiritual way!
(How to keep the love for Krishna undiluted for ever? READ HERE!)