Two Questions from two devotees:


“ i just want an answer of 1 question that is there any punishment for those who hurt others..who scold the one’s who loves them cant see their honesty”


“I wanted to know, if a son chased out his parents and sis for the sake of his wife..will he face any punishment from god..and if so, what kind of punishment would he face.. thank you.”



Every action has equal and opposite reaction.  This is the karma theory as well as Newton’s third law.  No one can escape from karma unless they are under the shelter of Krishna.

So, if anyone hurts others, definitely, he will be hurt by someone in future.  Here FUTURE means, either in this birth itself, or in the next birth depending on the nature & magnitude of the hurt.

For example, if a husband tortures and hurts his good and loyal wife, he will take birth as a girl and will be tortured and hurt by her husband in the next birth.

That is why, we must speak only good words without hurting others.  In case you hurt others that is very small in magnitude, go voluntarily and beg his pardon.  If he forgives you, you can get relieved from that small offence.  However, very big actions that have ruined the life of a person can not be just pardoned with words and hence he has to face the reactions in future.

We are ordinary people.  But, Sri Caitanya Maha Prabhu, who is Krishna Himself, advised his mother to beg for the pardon of a vaishnava when she once did an offence of hurting a vaishnava. Lord Caitanya said that unless the affected vaishnava forgives her, there is no relief for her offence.

Same kind of remedy applies for hurting others too.  For blasphemy type of hurting others through words, you can get the relief by getting his pardon.

One should be careful in his words, actions and even thoughts.  That is always good.  Words are like arrows that can not be returned once shot.

If you hurt your parents by not obeying their genuine advice and guidance, it can also be relieved by seeking their pardon and honouring their advice in future.  In case your parents give you wrong advice out of ignorance, you should explain them the facts in a polite way. If they do not correct their ignorance, you can do as you preferred after politely telling them.

For example, if your parents objects your following devotion to Krishna, you should first explain them politely. If they do not hear your explanation, you can follow devotion as you like but you should not escape from the duties to be done for parents.  Follow devotion while taking care of them.  This is the right approach to escape from karma.

The point is, be careful in not hurting others. If you explain your genuine case politely, but, others feel hurt, you need not worry. It will not add to your karma.


Now a days, the old age homes are increasing because of this increasing trend of sons deserting their parents after marriage.  Everyone likes to be independent.  He does not like to be commented or supervised by anyone.

A son remains good till gets married.  When he marries a girl, he feels that it is the best happiness one should not lose in life.  He likes to enjoy the life to its fullest (that is going to be impossible by anyone as this material life gives only temporary happiness).  In front of his new & beautiful wife, his parents seem very old and disturbing.

I have seen this trend in my locality too.  In my street, there were five sons who had 90 years old father who was walking and managing himself even in that age.  Their mother had already passed away.  The sons were expecting when their father will die as his life was extending.  Tired of his extension of life, they decided to admit him in an old age home.

Father told them that he likes to remain with them.  But, the sons paid Rs. one lakh as NON REFUNDABLE deposit and admitted him in a good old age home that charges Rs.10,000 per month for caring the elders.

After admitting, they returned home.  Within four days, there was a call from the old age home saying that his father suffered heart attack as he was always thinking of his sons and grand sons.  They brought him to their house.  After 10 days, he became normal after treatment.  They decided to resend him to the old age home as the deposit is going waste.  They told their father that they will take him the next day, ie, on new year day.  But, when they woke him up on January 1st, they found that their father had passed away.

Thus, this world is going that much busy and commercial.  The people are running behind money.

Though there are a few parents who do not understand the pressures of today’s youth, majority of parents are sent to old age homes though they are good parents.  The family structure is getting destroyed rapidly.

Only because India had perfect tradition of family structure with parents, children, grand children  etc, and savings, it could withstand the economic slowdown happened a few years ago throughout the world.  If we lose this family traditions, the people will start spending lavishly and hence, we will lose savings and hence we will remain insecured to face any economic disturbances.

So, losing the family culture in India seeing the west is worrying thing that has to be treated immediately.

And, as per GARUDA PURANA, such sons who desert their innocent old parents will have to stay long years in serious hells after their life time.  They also will be deserted by their sons in their present or future births.  They will have to face serious reactions for their acts  in both the places, in hells as well as next birth.

So, we have a moral responsibility of protecting our parents as we too have to become old after some years.  There is no use in feeling when we become old.  Dead parents can never be recovered.

There is no meaning in achieving even the Mount Everest after deserting the parents. A devotee should not have such an attitude of escaping from the naturally assigned responsibilities.

He should follow devotion while performing his assigned duties.

Taking care of helpless parents is the topmost responsibility of everyone.

Author: RAJAN

RAJAN from Tamil Nadu, India, a Life Patron and an Initiated Devotee being in ISKCON for nearly three decades, serves anonymously to avoid Prominence and crowd as an insignificant, Humble and Neutral Servant for all the devotees of Krishna! He promotes Social media forums and this blog-website as e-satsangha (e-forums) blessed with Lakhs of followers, to give Spiritual Solutions for all the Material Problems of the devotees since 2011! He writes friendly and practical tips to practice devotion (i) without hurting the followers of other paths, (ii) without affecting the personal and career life, and (iii) without the blind, superstitious and ritualistic approach! He dedicates all the glories and credits to his Guru and Krishna.


  1. are parents responsibility of the daughter or it is her in-laws only?
    what shastra says about the house of girl after marrying even practically her parents house becomes her secondary home and only attachment remains. if both inlaws and parents are sick what should she do ?

  2. Hare Krishna prabhu.
    I have been following your posts from long time. Thanks for clearing our doubts.
    With due respects, I submit that it is not the sons who are abandoning the parents only to enjoy with new wife. In majority of the cases the wife has been the cause of the disturbances in the family, unable to find peace the husbands are forced to get separated from the parents. I have seen multiple cases where the wife went to the extent of putting fake domestic violence and harassment cases to inflict fear among the in-laws and just to get out of the house with the husband, so that she need not look after them. My request is not to put the blame on sons completely.

    1. I agree. In most of the cases, the sons desert the parents only after the marriage. The reason is the pressures. I have written this in many places in my posts. Read all my posts about this matter. I have clearly explained them. In some cases, even the parents remain the cause for issues. It has to be dealt case by case. Thanks for views.

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