Punishments for hurting others and Deserting Parents as per Karma!
Two Questions from two devotees:
“ i just want an answer of 1 question that is there any punishment for those who hurt others..who scold the one’s who loves them cant see their honesty”
“I wanted to know, if a son chased out his parents and sis for the sake of his wife..will he face any punishment from god..and if so, what kind of punishment would he face.. thank you.”
Hurting others and Deserting Parents deserve serious and similar punishments as per Karma!
(1) KARMIC REACTIONS OF HURTING OTHERS
Every action has equal and opposite reaction. This is the karma theory as well as Newton’s third law. No one can escape from karma unless they are COMPLETELY immersed in the Prema for Krishna without even the traces of material attachments.
(If we stay away from torturing relatives, will it add to our karma? READ HERE!)
Hurting others is the next stage. There is a big warning of karma about even just speaking about others. This was said by Kanchi Sankaracharya Sri Chandrasekarendra Swami. When we speak ill or wrong information about a person to someone else, it leads to severe karma and we acquire part of his karma. More importantly, though we discuss the negative truth about a person in his absence, in this case too we acquire some of his karma. This shows that we have no right to speak about others in his absence. All we can do is that we can speak only the good aspects of any person to anyone.
If this is the case even for speaking about others, what to say about hurting others and deserting parents?
So, if anyone hurts others, definitely, he will be hurt by someone in future. Here FUTURE means, either in this birth itself, or in the next birth depending on the nature & magnitude of the hurt.
For example, if a husband tortures and hurts his good and loyal wife, he will take birth as a girl and will be tortured and hurt by her husband in the next birth. There is no doubt in this.
That is why, we must speak only good and positive words without hurting others. In case you hurt others thru speech that is small in magnitude, go voluntarily and beg his pardon. If he forgives you, you can get relieved from that small offence. However, very big actions that have ruined the life of a person can not be just pardoned with words as the effects can’t be reversed and hence he has to face the reactions in future.
For example, if we tell something wrong to the family of a groom who has come to enquire about their chosen bride to you as a neighbour, if you tell negatively about that girl, they may stop the marriage itself. The innocent girl is severely affected. This karma should be faced by us either in this birth or next birth, as it is non reversible.
We are the ordinary people. But, Sri Caitanya Maha Prabhu, who is Krishna Himself, advised his mother to beg for the pardon of Sri Advaita Acharya when she once did an offence of hurting him. Lord Caitanya said that unless the affected Sri Advaita Acharya forgives her, there is no relief for her offence.
(Read that Incident HERE.)
Same kind of remedy applies for hurting others too. For blasphemy type of hurting others through words, you can get the relief by getting his pardon.
One should be careful in his words, actions and even thoughts. That is always good. Words are like arrows that can not be returned once shot.
If you hurt your parents by not obeying their genuine advice and guidance, it can also be relieved by seeking their pardon and honouring their advice in future. In case your parents give you wrong advice out of ignorance, you should explain them the facts in a polite way. If they do not correct their ignorance, you can choose to act as they wished. Their instructions are more important than your desires.
For example, if your parents objects your following devotion to Krishna, you should first explain them politely. If they do not hear your explanation, you can follow devotion as you like but you should not escape from the duties to be done for parents. Do not keep criticizing them. Follow devotion while taking care of them. This is the right approach to escape from karma.
The point is, be careful in not hurting others. If you explain your genuine case politely, but, others feel hurt, you need not worry. It will not add to your karma.
(Daughter or Son – who is responsible to protect the parents to avoid karma? READ HERE!)
(2) KARMIC REACTIONS OF DESERTING THE PARENTS
Now a days, the old age homes are increasing because of this increasing trend of sons deserting parents after marriage. Everyone likes to be independent. He does not like to be commented or supervised by anyone. Most of the youth do not like to be under the shelter of parents or seniors.
A son remains good till gets married. When he marries a girl, he feels that it is the best happiness one should not lose in life. He likes to enjoy the life to its fullest (that is going to be impossible by anyone as this material life gives only temporary happiness). In front of his new & beautiful wife, his parents seem very old and disturbing.
I have seen this trend in my locality too. In my street, there were five sons who had 90 years old father who was walking and managing himself even in that age. Their mother had already passed away. The sons were expecting when their father will die as his life was extending. Tired of his extension of life, they decided to admit him in an old age home.
Father told them that he likes to remain with them. But, the sons paid Rs. one lakh as NON REFUNDABLE deposit and admitted him in a good old age home that charges Rs.10,000 per month for caring the elders.
(Parents (or) Krishna – Whom Should the Girls and boys Prefer To Serve? READ HERE!)
After admitting, they returned home. Within four days, there was a call from the old age home saying that his father suffered heart attack as he was always thinking of his sons and grand sons. They brought him to their house. After 10 days, he became normal after treatment. They decided to resend him to the old age home as the deposit is going waste. They told their father that they will take him the next day, ie, on new year day. But, when they woke him up on January 1st, they found that their father had passed away.
Thus, this world is going that much busy and commercial. The people are running behind money.
Though there are a few parents who do not understand the pressures of today’s youth, majority of parents are sent to old age homes though they are good parents. The family structure is getting destroyed rapidly.
Only because India had perfect tradition of family structure with parents, children, grand children etc, and savings, it could withstand the economic slowdown happened a few years ago throughout the world and even the Covid effects on economy. If we lose this family tradition, the people will start spending lavishly and hence, we will lose the attitude of savings and hence we will remain insecured to face any economic slowdowns.
(Why India has no uniformity in religious and family customs and practices? READ HERE?)
So, losing the family culture in India seeing the west is worrying thing that has to be treated immediately.
And, as per GARUDA PURANA, such sons who desert their innocent old parents will have to stay long years in serious hells after their life time. They also will be deserted by their sons in their present or future births. They will have to face serious reactions for their acts in both the places, in hells as well as next birth.
So, we have a moral responsibility of protecting our parents as we too have to become old after some years. There is no use in feeling when we become old. Deceased parents can never be recovered.
There is no pride in achieving even the Mount Everest after deserting the parents. A devotee should not have such an attitude of escaping from the naturally assigned responsibilities.
He should follow devotion while performing his assigned duties.
Taking care of helpless parents and not hurting Parents is the topmost responsibility of everyone.
Sanyasa is recommended Only if you decide to dedicate your life for the cause of the entire world to uplift them to get liberated from the material clutches. Even in that case, you should make arrangements for the well being of parents for the rest of their life time and then take sanyasa. Krishna will take care of the family of such genuine sanyasis.
Srila Prabhupada too left his family for serving the entire world after making all the financial arrangements and leaving his wife with his grown up children. Before taking sanyasa, Srila Prabhupada was already financially well. He left everything for the family and then took sanyasa.
Thus, there is a process for everything. Let us learn to sacrifice. It is the quality of satva guna people who alone are eligible for devotional life.
There is more satisfaction in sacrificing for others than in achieving. This is the basis of sanyasa.
So, decide to sacrifice for others – particularly for parents. You can avoid hellish terms and you can get the mercy of the Lord also.
Hope this has cleared the doubts on Punishments for hurting others and Deserting Parents as per Karma!
(What is the solution for my brother hating family after becoming a devotee? READ HERE!)