How to live happily in spite of problems in life?
Hi, Jai Shri Krishna to all, nowadays I am going through the hell, lots of pain, guilt, regret. Don’t know what should I do, it seems like everything is finished, I believe in Lord Krishna, he can do anything, I am searching for happiness, I dnt wanna live, don’t know what to do.. plz help me,, okzzz.
The problem with many people is that THEY ARE SEARCHING THE HAPPINESS FROM OUTSIDE to live happily in spite of problems in life.
This is impossible.
The real happiness does not exist outside.
HAPPINESS EXISTS WITHIN YOU.
You have to just explore it.
Outside means, you are depending on other things and persons for happiness. It will never help to live happily in spite of problems in life.
It is never going to happen.
Because every person, being a conditioned soul, has these four major defects: Subject to maya, Committing mistakes, Defective senses and Cheating propensity.
(These defects of Conditioned souls have been explained HERE.)
If you trust a person today and finds happiness from him/ her, many of them may betray you in future causing serious miseries to you.
If you feel so excited today with the comforts of a costly car, it may give pains when you happen to face an accident.
Today, you may feel proud for owning enormous wealth. Many rich people of yesterday have lost everything and came to the streets in the world. Wealth will never stay in one place for long time.
A boy may find a girl so attractive, marry her, leave his parents suffer alone without his support. When she starts to torture him due to many reasons like lack of monetary, physical and emotional support, the advancement of age and diseases, etc., he will look for his parents to console him. By that time his parents would have died.
While loving, the entire world may seem like a heaven. When there is separation between them, the same world becomes a hell.
(WHY THE PEOPLE ARE UNHAPPY? FOUR NEEDS OF A PERSON ANALYSED! READ HERE!)
One may feel satisfied by torturing others in his young age, but, when he becomes bed-ridden in his old age, he calls the same people to help him.
Thus, Permanent happiness is not possible in the outside world.
We have to find REAL HAPPINESS from inside to live happily in spite of problems in life.
What does INSIDE mean?
It is seeing the soul and supersoul. That means, Athma and Paramathma. That again means, You and Lord.
You are the Athma; Lord is the Paramathma.
Body has sufferings; Athma does not have.
Therefore, until this body with the senses and mind is associated with the athma, there will be pains.
Again, only until one considers that this body is HIMSELF, he will face the pains.
(Krishna does not clear my struggles in life. What to do? READ HERE!)
Therefore, WE SHOULD BE SITUATED IN OUR ATHMA THAT HAS NO PAINS AND WE SHOULD JUST BE A SPECTATOR FOR THE PAINS FACED BY THIS BODY.
This may be easy to say. However, it is not easy to remain a spectator of our pains.
However, it is possible with sustained practice.
If you suffer with the diseases, remember that the suffering is for our body. Not for us since we are athma. Take those sufferings as unavoidable and pray to the Lord and take steps to stop taking the bodies again.
Take these pains as teachers for you to educate you the real nature of this material life.
Only when you are always thinking of your pains, it will be felt more.
Just take the medicines prescribed by the doctor and reduce the pains. This is the temporary remedy. At the same time, take steps for the permanent remedy by praying to the Lord not to give any body again.
(Why Krishna gives more problems to His devotees, but helping many non devotees? READ HERE!)
If you face the cheating incidences, disappointments, losses, etc, these sufferings are for your bodily relations only. You (soul) can never feel the sufferings.
Take those cheating incidences and disappointments as the parts of this material life. No one can escape from them.
If you face the suffering, you are getting cleansed from your negative karma.
That is why, the saints consider the pains as the mercy of Lord.
More pains, more cleansing and faster cleansing from karma that giives early return to the Lord’s kingdom.
Let anything happen. Face them. Do not care them. Divert your attention in any other productive activities.
(My desires never get fulfilled in life. Why it is so? READ HERE!)
Today, a problem may seem big. The same problem may become very silly in future.
This is the effect of TIME.
Time makes us feel even serious things normal in due course of time.
Therefore, do not show your emotions immediately seeing the pains and miseries.
Wait as a spectator just taking possible steps for remedy.
In due course of time, the same big pains will become small.
This is how the entire population is living with pains and pleasures alternatively.
Hope you are clear about how to live happily in spite of problems in life.
(THE WAY OF LIFE RECOMMENDED BY BHAGAVAD GITA! READ HERE!)