My desires never get fulfilled in life. Why it is so?
Actual Question from a male devotee:
“i’m very unlucky and depressed person in the world, after completing primary and high school, i never enjoyed my life, i never got good teacher in high school nor college, my family was financially back, so from small age itself, i had a dream of becoming computer engineer n i have to earn lot of money, and i want to take care of parents, and grandpa n grandma’s family, i never got a good teacher, philosopher, or guide, from small itself, I was genius in computer and electronic gadgets, so i was genius among all my cousins too.. But when i came to Pre university college, i took science, thought of becoming engineer n all, but unfortunately, science was very tough for me, there was no teachers and one of the worst college, finally i got failed, then i withdrawn, i took p.u commerce privately, now this year i took B.Com through distance education, but still today, i regret that i missed engineering, and today the god made me everything opposite, my cousins even though they poor they all done engineering taking loan, now they taking salary more than 1 lakh, i’m here without any knowledge, and don’t know anything what to do, how to do, whether i get good job for what i’ m doing, sitting in home, i got mad, completely depressed, don’t have knowledge of studies, missing college, totally a big question mark in front of my life. If u can help me, please give me the right opinion.”
Simply speaking, you had some genuine expectations, but, they did not materialize as wished by you.
Remember, No one in this world is 100% happy. Everyone has some kind problems. They may not show outside. So, don’t think that you alone are suffering.
I like to tell you that Krishna makes a person fail to give him success in any other field. Krishna may be willing to make you a good Chartered Accountant. That is why, He has diverted you towards Commerce stream. But, you like to become an engineer. Why do you feel for losing engineering considering more options are available? Why can’t you shine as a C.A that is a rare field as the Chartered Accountants are in much demand now-a-days?
Srila Prabhupada, who was the founder of ISKCON too was relieved from his Pharmaceutical business by Krishna. He was a serious devotee of Krishna from his childhood. Why Krishna relieved Srila Prabhupada from his Pharma business? Because, Krishna wanted to make him to take His messages worldwide as a great acharya and made him to be respected throughout the world.
Had Krishna made Srila Prabhupada as a good pharmaceutical businessman, he would have become a popular Pharma owner. But, now, he is living in lakhs of devotees’ hearts throughout this world.
Now, can you understand why Krishna gives failures? It shows that He is very merciful on us. That is why, he makes us fail in our small desires and make us a great personality.
So, do well in B.Com. Then, join C.A course and get coaching from a good institute, since it is a tough exam. But, if you pass in it, you can also earn more than your cousins.
After I finished +2, ie, 12th Std or Pre University, I wanted to join and applied for B.Sc Physics. But, the college in which the fee was very less gave me only Chemistry. I could not join any other college due to poverty then. Chemistry is a tough subject for many students (in fact, it is an interesting subject). However, to make the negative as positive, I did well in Chemistry and got good rank in it.
Then, I diverted my field to administration by doing M.B.A. So, Chemistry became useless for me. Thus, I did contrary subjects and later became a self-employed person. So, such types of disappointments are natural for all the devotees. We must take even the negatives as the desire of Krishna and just proceed further.
If you do not get something that you expected, that means, Lord has some other opportunity for you. It will come to you automatically. Lord’s arrangements will always be the better ones.
Dr.APJ. Abdul Kalam attended the tests and interviews for the post of Air Pilot. But, he was not selected. He was very much disappointed.
Later, he became a great scientist and the President of India. God’s will had been so, but, he was willing to become a pilot.
Sometimes, if a boon is given, it may do harm for the recipient. For example, if a Krishna devotee prays to Krishna for a son, but, he has the karma of dieing because of his son, Krishna will not give a son for him.
This means, Krishna will never give anything that may harm His devotees.
This is Karma.
Without knowing this mercy of Krishna to protect Hiss devotees, some devotees accuse Krishna for nott giving something. Some may even change their god if anyone says that a particular demigod gives whatever we pray.
So, Always be positive. Don’t allow negative thoughts dominate you. If you allow more negative thoughts, they will reduce your confidence level and hence your growth. It is a silent killer. You have two hands and legs, eyes, ears and BRAIN in good condition. What else you want from Krishna as your property? Do you know that there are crores of people who are living with disabilities like, Visual or hearing challenges, mental retardness, etc?
Having all the organs as perfect, crying to Lord for giving success in material activities is not nice. Use all your senses and organs perfectly in coming up in life. Then, pray to Krishna for blessings and to give strength to bear the pains of problems coming because of our karma. At the same time, perform your assigned duties sincerely.
These sincere efforts with Krishna in mind will take you to success.
All the best.