Krishna does not clear my struggles in life. What to do?
ACTUAL QUESTION FROM A GIRL DEVOTEE:
Hare krishna prabhuji danvat pranam… Prabhuji I read your every counselling all are very nice… Prabhuji am devotee of krishna I do 16 round daily read bhagwatgeeta, bhagwatam, n some other shirla prabhupada books, fallow four principles. My father do every day pray krishna but in hurry not give time to worship.. My father is too much simple man that’s why all in my cousin family relation don’t respect them n other person also it’s hurt me alot my father is do simple work he is tailor… N am belong to very middle class family from starting to yet my mother n father sacrifice all things for me n my others siblings.. Still sacrifice many things.. They educate me very well now am engineer doing job. Prabhuji I want to become a successful software engineer but right now am doing job in sales because of money.. Am doing preparations for software field but I have shortest of time because from morning to evening till 8 pm my sales job.. After that am too much tried.. All time I pray to krishna plss help me but am disappointed.. I do more work but results not comes..even for my marriage many troubles are comes.. If any relation is cme for me so they first what my father do… N like this all relation is cancel because my father have not good job am belong to Middle class that’s why… Even am manglik girl also my parents are too much worrying about me n I don’t seen like this my parents. Am living away from my home because of job I want to earn money to fulfill my parents need….. They hide me many difficult things because am away from them.. My mother is blind faith n trust on krishna but now am losing my faith on krishna I all tym crying in front of krishna Now what I do am too much worry about my parents happiness for my job but now am totally frustrated… Plss prabhuji I first I share my views I never say this all things to anyone accept krishna.. Now am telling to you.. Please advice me what I do.. Hare Krishna
Your message shows that you belong to a good family where your and your parents’ aspirations have not been fulfilled as expected.
All the expectations we have may not match the fulfilments given to us based on our karma.
For example, if you are destined for a sales job, you will not get other jobs whatever you try.
However, as a girl, your responsibilities for your family are genuine and you are a deserving girl to be happy in life.
At the same time, we have to admit that all of are controlled by our past karma. Only because of this past karma, some people earn more with just a small or no efforts and some others earn very small or nothing even if they work hard.
Right now, you have been destined for a sales job. However, if you learn and practice the soft skills that are required to get job in the software industry and continuously apply for related ccompanies, you can get a job in that industry.
If you do not get a job in a bog company, try for start ups or small set ups initially and gain experience in it. Later try for big companies after gaining sufficient experience.
As far as your marriage is concerned, more disappointments – more purification. You may have mangalya dosha or any other dosha in your horoscope. When you face some failures in your attempts to get married initially, these disappointments act as the PARIHAR (remedy) for your dosha.
That is why, I have been advising all to face the disappointments patiently. By facing the disappointments again again your dosha (or) negative karma in that aspect is cleared completely and hence all the barriers for your marriage will be cleared that paves the way for getting a good groom for marriage.
Therefore, don’t get discouraged because of repeated failures. If you ccontinue your efforts without much expectations, but, as a duty, a boy who prefers only the character, not the money, will come and accept you.
Therefore, continue your attempts to get a good groom through proper channels.
If you compare yourself and your family with the outer world, you can understand that you are in better position compared to crores of others.
You have a house to live; You have education; You have a job to earn though it is not your expected job; You have good parents; Your parents atleast have a profession to do and earn something;
You are somehow living in this world.
Just think of those who do not even have a house to live; Not even a single meal daily; no good dress to wear; no hygenic surroundings; no security for their dignity, etc, etc.
In India, there is no electricity to 20% of the families. Just compare yourself with those families.
Be relieved that you are in a better position.
Krishna has given you many blessings; You do not think of them.
You have some needs to be fulfilled. It may happen in future.
You have to take sincere effforts and wait for the things to happen.
Even if the expected things do not happen, you should take it as the effect of karma, and continue to live as a duty.
Whether the expected things happen or not, just fill your life with the thoughts, practices and worship of Krishna. See the real happiness in it.
Krishna will never let His devotees down.
But, gow to elevate a devotee is the causeless mercy and discretion of Krishna. He only knows which is good and which is bad for you.
Understanding this, make your life happy with the available things and the hope in the mercy of Lord.
All the best.