Can a person have the same wife/ husband in the next birth also?
A woman devotee asked like this interesting question:
“Would a couple be a couple for all the births? Please clear it.”
Not compulsorily! Such dialogues are in movies only. There are only some very small probabilities to be couple in the next birth also, but, it need not be compulsory! Because, the dates of death are different for everyone.
For example, Let there is a married couple who like to marry in their every birth! The wife says to husband: “Though I take 100 births, I like to have you only as my husband!”
This is very nice to hear. But, difficult to implement! Because, the wife may leave her present body in her age of 60. The husband may live up to 90 in his body. When the wife has died naturally, that athma can not be kept without taking birth for long period. In this case, that athma (wife) has to remain idle for 30 years till her husband dies in his age of 90. Only if it was suicide, she has to wander as a ghost. But, if it is the natural death, they have to take birth as early as possible. So, she will be given another body and marry some other person.
And, we are conditioned souls. So, we are bound with Karma. Only Krishna can take births as He wishes and at his choice of period. We can not take births as we like. If you like to wait till your husband of your previous body leaves his body and come to you, the servants of Yama will not allow it. They do their duties perfectly as per their schedule. Garuda Purana says that within one earth year, the soul of the dead person is taken to Yama Loka and given punishments or rewards. You can not request the Yama or his servants to keep you somewhere else till your husband comes. His administration is very perfect.
Moreover, only the humans think in terms of body. We identify with our body. I am Rakesh; My wife is Shiela, like that. For Yama, you are just a jeevan. When you set your laptop to turn off when the laptop battery comes to 10%, it will perfectly shut down your laptop when the battery comes to 10%. No excuse or extentions.
Yama’s administration is also like that. If he starts to care the requests of the people to give extension of lives, he can never function properly!
You have to note another point! Among couples, the wife may take human birth as a boy and the husband may take next birth as girl. Now, the wife has to become a husband and the husband has to become wife.
This is alright! Who guarantees you a human birth again? Except devotees of Lord, others have no guarantee of human birth. If the wife takes birth as a girl again, but, the husband takes birth as a tiger, what will happen? How can they marry each other?
Ok, For the argument sake, let us keep that both have taken birth as humans! But, Krishna has not given us the ability to remember our past births! How will you know that this person was your husband in your past birth? You won’t have even a trace of memory of past births!
So, my advice is: Don’t confuse yourself by watching cinema dialogues! Only exalted people like acharyas can get the mercy of Lord to choose their next birth and his associates! We, the ordinary people have to rely only on the schedule of the servants of Lord. He may give you the same husband or not. No guarantee for that. Because, God treats you as athma, not as body! He does not bother your bodily identity!
KRISHNA SEES HOW PURE THE ATHMA IS! IF YOUR ATHMA (MUST BE UNDERSTOOD AS ‘YOU’) IS PURIFIED WITH SPIRITUAL SADHANAS, HE ACCEPTS YOU; Or, HE SANCTIONS NEXT BIRTH TO YOU BASED ON YOUR ACTIVITIES OF PAST BIRTHS!
So, don’t think your associates like husband, brother, sister, children, parents as the bodies. Treat them as athma! After that, you won’t like to take birth again.
Because, this material world is Dhukkalayam… Asasvatham.
Don’t have a dangerous desire of taking birth again, that too as you like! Forget about it and live peacefully!
The moment you leave this body, you have to forget all your relations, friends, properties, cash balance, etc. They will not come with you! You have to go alone forgetting everything!
Only the bodies have different forms, relations, etc; But, all are athma that has no identity like husband, wife, couple, friend, etc. As we took bodies, we are living with these relations! Actually as we are athma, our original and only relation is Krishna (Paramathma)
Hope you are clear.