How to find perfect life partners for devotees in Kaliyuga?
A male devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Hare Krishna prabhuji. first of all i want to give you big thanks from my side. You are doing a great job on this site and on your another site too. Hats off to you. My question is how to find a soul mate as partner for us in life? What actually life is? In material words, how to live life ? why we are here ? and i am devote of lord Krishna too.. i love him extremely he is my idol and everything please advice.
I think you are the best counsellor in this world after reading your posts. I’ll daily check the site for your precious words and for my answer. Hare Krishna”
REPLY:
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Finding life partner is indeed controlled by karma. It may not be possible to find perfect life partners for devotees in Kaliyuga because everyone may have different flaws that is natural.
Only because of our good and bad deeds, we came here. So, no one can be perfect in this world. We are in a position to accept others with their positives and negatives. Otherwise, we won’t get anyone to marry at all. This is the bitter fact.
(What to do if the devotee spouse is attached to family members? READ HERE!)
Even many beggars and criminals get loyal wives/ husbands whereas many devotees remain unmarried in life.
Why? Because, in their previous birth(s), such beggars might have been the misers and they helped only their wives/husbands, not others and they might have stolen the properties of others.
So, they are given birth as beggars in this birth. However, as they protected their wife (alone) sincerely in their previous birth(s), they have been given wife in this birth though they took birth as beggars.
Whereas, some of the present devotees might have done many good deeds, practised devotion and helped many devotees in their previous births. But, they might have failed to protect their spouse in their past birth and hence their wife/ husband might have died or absconded and suffered a lot in their life with this devotee.
So, they have been given good birth as devotees now because they practised devotion and helped devotees in the past, but they are not given spouse now because they did not take care of their spouse properly in their previous birth.
Similarly, if you had given basic protection to your spouse in the previous birth, but, you tortured him/ her, now, in this birth, you will definitely be given a spouse who will torture you.
(Is staying in Goloka as family of Parents, Spouse & Child possible? READ HERE!)
In case you had lived a good and kind life as a husband/ wife in the previous birth, now, in the present birth, you will be given a kind hearted spouse.
So, it has been already decided whether you will get a good wife or normal wife or abnormal wife.
In any case, finding a perfect life partner may be impossible.
You can never change your karma unless you burn them with serious devotional practices and material detachment and attachment to Krishna.
So, be prepared to accept your karma and accept whatever kind of life your karma gives to you.
However, you can pray for forgiveness from Krishna for all your offensive acts in your past births.
This may reduce the severity of pains we face now and we may come out successful from such pains in due course of time.
So, you are controlled by karma. And, your wife has ALREADY been decided. Just you have to meet her and it will happen in a suitable time.
WAIT till that time comes.
(Why even Krishna’s devotees face tortures from spouse? READ HERE!)
Importantly, A WIFE OR HUSBAND IS NOT A SOUL MATE. A SPOUSE IS ONLY FOR YOUR BODY & MIND, NOT FOR SOUL.
SOUL (ATHMA)’S SOULMATE IS ONLY THE PARAMATHMA (KRISHNA).
When we die, all our connections with our spouse comes to an end. But, our connection with Krishna continues for ever.
So, our soulmate is Krishna and body & mind mate is wife/ husband.
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Life is an opportunity for us to clear our karma and to purify us and to prepare ourselves to go back to the God. This is the real life. But, we are thinking that the enjoyments, wealth, ego, etc., are life.
This is ignorance. Only the life that PURIFIES ourselves is the real life.
We are expected to use this body to learn that we are not this body but athma and this body is not permanent and our destination is the eternal kingdom of Krishna..
(Is Remarrying same divorced spouse allowed to reduce karma? READ HERE!)
(3)
We have to lead a responsible life just as a duty and keeping Krishna as the Prime member of our family. We should lead the life ONLY TO SATISFY KRISHNA, NOT TO SATISFY OURSELVES.
FOR OTHER PEOPLE, JUST DO YOUR DUTY. FOR KRISHNA, SHOW ALL YOUR LOVE.
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We came to this earth again because we did both sins and good acts in our past life. If we had done only good deeds, we would have gone to the heavens. If we had done only sinful acts, we would have gone to the hells. Because we did both good and bad acts, we have come to this earth to clear all our karma.
As said by Srila Prabhupada, Originally we were with Krishna still packed with our Freewill. As we wanted to be a leader and enjoyer like Krishna on seeing His lilas in His planet, Krishna understood that we have used our Freewill to develop desire to lead and enjoy and hence we were asked to TEMPORARILY try them on this earth and realize that enjoyments follow pains and after that come back to Krishna after full realization again.
Hope you are clear about how to find perfect life partners for devotees in Kaliyuga.
(Are marriage & spouse fixed by God? How? READ HERE!)