I lost my interest to go to jobs after following devotion. What to do? (With tips for temples)

I lost my interest to go to jobs after following devotion. What to do? (With tips for temples)

Actual Question from a girl devotee:

“Hare Krishna ji, I want to ask that I am attached to be in devotional like i listen Bhagwad Geeta and satsang but my family is too worried for me because i am not getting any interest in daily material life as all has some type of future goals n dreams As i am Graduated i have done job 1 year but stability issue is their as i am not getting my stability in one job so i had losted my try in job and i also dnt like go out of home any where.. I go for Satsang so my family say me that you are lost because of listening all this fact in this growing age. I dnt known what to do now. how i explain them that my interest in fake relation n material life has been losted fully. whenever i listen the devotional songs like Bhagwad Geeta Audio they get irritated and they say me “your age is to earn n set your career” as i am now 24 yrs old but they are not getting my issue as i also dnt show them what i am facing now.. Kindly help me why this all happening to me..? Is that my karma..? I never fault or complain to Krishna. I just keep quiet n listen and say to krishna to help me from all this situation. Thank you, Hare Krishna”

REPLY:

I am voicing in this site and my Facebook Page that the devotees may start to read the advanced concepts only after they start to go to a job.

What I have been advising so far is reflected in your case.

That is why, I DO NOT SUPPORT GIVING THE SAME ADVICE FOR ALL THE PEOPLE.

I am fully convinced in my opinion that the advices should be customized for each and every devotee.

If you read a book of an author, you should first know for which age that book is suitable.

Similarly, if you hear a lecture, you should evaluate for which age of persons those advices are given.

That is why, I expect the sathsanghas to arrange different gatherings for different aged devotees.

Let us imagine this scene:

A speaker is speaking about the effects of attachments with family. He says that loving the wives and children makes one conditioned with the material world and he gets repeated births and deaths and even gets births as other species.

If a 30 or 40 years old devotees hear this, no problem. Because, they will be feeling the heat of material life.

If he had come with his 16 years old daughter, what will happen?

She too will be hearing that lecture and start to think that getting married and loving the husband, children, etc., will lead to attachments and hence she may have to face the serious consequences.

Because of this, and because of her immaturity to analyse every aspect, she may develop a kind of aversion in her mind about marriage.

So, she may avoid marriage in future in haste.

The speaker might have spoken about developing devotion even in marriage life.  But, she might not have heard it in full.

Similarly, she might have read the Bhagavad Gita full version even in her 14-16 years of age.

This would have added fuel for her aversion in marriage because though Krishna has not said anything about marriage in Gita, the purports written by the authors might have spoken about attachment through marriage.

Thus, the small girl would have unnecessarily developed aversion in getting married.

What to do to avoid such things?

The temples and sathsanghas should arrange separate programs for different age groups.

Here are some examples:

(1) First group for children below 12 years of age:

They should be given practice to chant just 1-4 rounds of chanting without affecting school studies.

The negative effects of coffee, tea, chocolates, onion and garlic MUST BE educated so that they can avoid them right from the childhood.

In this group, only the slokas of Bhagavad Gita should be practiced to memorize.

Vaishnava songs can be given for singing practice.

Beautiful stories in the life of Krishna can be told and practiced.

They can be given practice to draw or paint the pictures of Krishna and related people and things.

These children should not be allowed to get the exposure of any other classes or programs.

(2) Second Group for the teens and youth between 13-22 years of age:

They can be given practice to chant 4-8 rounds of chanting without affecting school / college studies.

They can also be taught how to offer food to Krishna and perform worship.

They can be introduced to follow four regulative principles basically. This can be discussed in detail in the next group.

In addition to the above mentioned Gita slokas, this group of devotees should be given the meanings of ONLY SOME SELECTED AND IMPORTANT SLOKAS OF BHAGAVAD GITA.

They can be given essay contests, painting contests, speeches, etc.

They can be given exposure to some selected small books on Krishna that does not contain advanced concepts.

They can be given exposure to some selected stories of Bhagavatham – Not the advanced concepts of Bhagavatham.

(3)  Third Group for the Grown up youth between 23-30 years of age:

They can be encouraged to chant 8-16 rounds daily.

They can also be trained in four regulative principles in detail.

They can be given exposures and lectures on Bhagavad Gita completely. All the small books on Krishna can be taught.

Bhagavatham important slokas can be introduced to these age group.

(4) Fourth Group for the married and experienced devotees between 31-90 years of age:

They can be taught everything about Krishna, literatures, Bhagavatham, confidential advices, etc. No need for screening.

Thus, the devotees should be separated into four groups and classes should be given.

This will avoid very young devotees getting frustrated in the life because of insufficient understanding.

They should not be give advanced concepts before 23 and very advanced concepts before 30.

Thus, we can help the devotees to take right decisions in their right age.

Otherwise, they will decide their future way of life even when they are immatured.

Now, in your case, you have been upset with the material world.

In this age, this is unnecessary.

Without going to job, you will have to expect others for your every need.

Containing yourself within home may lead to a psychological issues or imbalances in future.

You may be detached from the society.

Therefore, change yourself. Go to the job. Marry a devotee boy, follow devotion as a grahastha and become matured in life day by day.

Only because many devotees behave like you, the parents fear to send their children to sathsanghas.

Even the sathsanghas should understand the fear of the parents and follow the tips given for four groups of trainings.

This will avoid many issues.

Do as I advised here and start to be a normal girl hereafter. Don’t develop a hatred about this life.

Make it blissful by working without attachment to the results alone and also following the devotional practices meant for every age.

All the best.

Author: RAJAN

RAJAN from Tamil Nadu, India, has decades of association with the devotees of Krishna. He is promoting many sites and he promotes this blog-website as an E-SATHSANGHA (E-FORUM) to give Spiritual Solutions for all the Material Problems faced by the devotees! In this site, he writes the friendly and practical tips for the practice of devotion (i) without hurting the followers of other paths, (ii) without affecting the personal and career life, and (iii) without the blind, superstitious and ritualistic approach! He has been counselling through social media and websites since the year 2011. His services are guiding more than 1,20,000 serious followers and lakhs of visiting readers! RAJAN accepts no credits for his services but dedicates all the credits to Krishna.

3 thoughts on “I lost my interest to go to jobs after following devotion. What to do? (With tips for temples)”

  1. Hari Bol Prabhuji,
    Please accept my humble obeisances, All glories to Srila Prabhupada!

    I kind of disagree. You seem to adjust indeed to the time but isnt it so that Srila Prabhupadas books, lectures and advices are eternal? So it worked in the 60s and 70s? Well I read that also in those days people deviated eventhough he was physically present. What I am trying to say is that the more we go into Kali Yuga, the more difficult it becomes to live like a devotee since the whole world has changed since the 70s. There are more comforts, more technology more disruptions in practicing Krishna Consiousness. You kind of sound like a hindu who adjusts because you dont dare to preach the truth. Like I said in a previous post, what if your familymembers and your collegues at work are atheists and they sabotage your work? What to do then? Shouldnt one associate with like-minded people? Then what to do? This is why, yes we should work, definitely we should work, no one can be without work, we are in Kali Yuga. The mind will be agitated. BUT we (the devotees of Hare Krishna Movement) should come together after work and have as much as satsanga possible. Ideally is that we all together work towards Cow Protecting Farm Community and start living simple. Follow the order of Srila Prabhupada. The moment you say we should adapt, then there will be trouble. I have experience in this. When I adapted like you said, everything in my life went wrong, because I compromised with atheists, karmis, mayavadis. I flatter them and am kind of a yes-man, shaking my head just not to offend them. These same people (family and collegue at work) insult Krishna and His devotees. This is why association is very important. What do you think Prabhu of the above? Please forgive if I offended, its just that for me what you said, did not work. But maybe I am doing something wrong, I am a reader of books and only Srila Prabhupada’s books make me happy, only Krishna Consious related subjects interest me. I am not a devotee but do want to become one. This is why I went to ISKCON but they themselves did not help. What you adviced in your post above, ISKCON here in Europe does not follow. They have become a hindu donation-receiving organisation, they are not following Srila Prabhupada’s order. In the mean time new-comers like me fall down and now I am without work. I adjusted to these people, still they fired me. What if now I do not get a job, what is that all about?

    Hare Krishna,

    Hendrik van Gooten

    1. This Post speaks about giving Krishna Consciousnesss in different depth for different ages. During childhood, if the children sit in the Bhagavatham class, they will take immatured decisions. So, the K.C advices should be given in phases for different age groups. Yes, if a person’s mind naturally goes towards full time service to Krishna, he can take it. No barriers in it. But, in childhood, he can not evaluate his sense diturbances and hence if he takes decision in haste, he may suffer with the senses in future. Also with the job opportunities as mentioned by yourself. Therefore, I am not against Krishna Consciousness education. But, it should be given to the right age group. That is why, this young girl has developed a hatred in going to jobs, mingling with families, etc. Advanced concepts need not be taught for children. Thats all. Thanks for your comment. Hare Krishna.

      1. Hari Bol Prabhu. Thank you for your answer. I understand what you are saying. I just thought that if we are together as devotee community, we have then our own gurukula where only Krishna Consious subjects are thaught but when living in current times, modifications must be made. I think if devotee parents want, it should be possible to educate children right from the beginning. Like getting familiar with Ramayana and Mahabharata, and when they start to talk, begin with sanskrit but that’s just how I understood it. In otherwords, take Krishna Consiousness literally not combine it with mundane education.
        Hare Krishna, Hendrik

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