I lost my interest to go to jobs after following devotion. What to do? (With tips for temples)
Actual Question from a girl devotee:
“Hare Krishna ji, I want to ask that I am attached to be in devotional like i listen Bhagwad Geeta and satsang but my family is too worried for me because i am not getting any interest in daily material life as all has some type of future goals n dreams As i am Graduated i have done job 1 year but stability issue is their as i am not getting my stability in one job so i had losted my try in job and i also dnt like go out of home any where.. I go for Satsang so my family say me that you are lost because of listening all this fact in this growing age. I dnt known what to do now. how i explain them that my interest in fake relation n material life has been losted fully. whenever i listen the devotional songs like Bhagwad Geeta Audio they get irritated and they say me “your age is to earn n set your career” as i am now 24 yrs old but they are not getting my issue as i also dnt show them what i am facing now.. Kindly help me why this all happening to me..? Is that my karma..? I never fault or complain to Krishna. I just keep quiet n listen and say to krishna to help me from all this situation. Thank you, Hare Krishna”
I am voicing in this site and my Facebook Page that the devotees may start to read the advanced concepts only after they start to go to a job.
What I have been advising so far is reflected in your case.
That is why, I DO NOT SUPPORT GIVING THE SAME ADVICE FOR ALL THE PEOPLE.
I am fully convinced in my opinion that the advices should be customized for each and every devotee.
If you read a book of an author, you should first know for which age that book is suitable.
Similarly, if you hear a lecture, you should evaluate for which age of persons those advices are given.
That is why, I expect the sathsanghas to arrange different gatherings for different aged devotees.
Let us imagine this scene:
A speaker is speaking about the effects of attachments with family. He says that loving the wives and children makes one conditioned with the material world and he gets repeated births and deaths and even gets births as other species.
If a 30 or 40 years old devotees hear this, no problem. Because, they will be feeling the heat of material life.
If he had come with his 16 years old daughter, what will happen?
She too will be hearing that lecture and start to think that getting married and loving the husband, children, etc., will lead to attachments and hence she may have to face the serious consequences.
Because of this, and because of her immaturity to analyse every aspect, she may develop a kind of aversion in her mind about marriage.
So, she may avoid marriage in future in haste.
The speaker might have spoken about developing devotion even in marriage life. But, she might not have heard it in full.
Similarly, she might have read the Bhagavad Gita full version even in her 14-16 years of age.
This would have added fuel for her aversion in marriage because though Krishna has not said anything about marriage in Gita, the purports written by the authors might have spoken about attachment through marriage.
Thus, the small girl would have unnecessarily developed aversion in getting married.
What to do to avoid such things?
The temples and sathsanghas should arrange separate programs for different age groups.
Here are some examples:
(1) First group for children below 12 years of age:
They should be given practice to chant just 1-4 rounds of chanting without affecting school studies.
The negative effects of coffee, tea, chocolates, onion and garlic MUST BE educated so that they can avoid them right from the childhood.
In this group, only the slokas of Bhagavad Gita should be practiced to memorize.
Vaishnava songs can be given for singing practice.
Beautiful stories in the life of Krishna can be told and practiced.
They can be given practice to draw or paint the pictures of Krishna and related people and things.
These children should not be allowed to get the exposure of any other classes or programs.
(2) Second Group for the teens and youth between 13-22 years of age:
They can be given practice to chant 4-8 rounds of chanting without affecting school / college studies.
They can also be taught how to offer food to Krishna and perform worship.
They can be introduced to follow four regulative principles basically. This can be discussed in detail in the next group.
In addition to the above mentioned Gita slokas, this group of devotees should be given the meanings of ONLY SOME SELECTED AND IMPORTANT SLOKAS OF BHAGAVAD GITA.
They can be given essay contests, painting contests, speeches, etc.
They can be given exposure to some selected small books on Krishna that does not contain advanced concepts.
They can be given exposure to some selected stories of Bhagavatham – Not the advanced concepts of Bhagavatham.
(3) Third Group for the Grown up youth between 23-30 years of age:
They can be encouraged to chant 8-16 rounds daily.
They can also be trained in four regulative principles in detail.
They can be given exposures and lectures on Bhagavad Gita completely. All the small books on Krishna can be taught.
Bhagavatham important slokas can be introduced to these age group.
(4) Fourth Group for the married and experienced devotees between 31-90 years of age:
They can be taught everything about Krishna, literatures, Bhagavatham, confidential advices, etc. No need for screening.
Thus, the devotees should be separated into four groups and classes should be given.
This will avoid very young devotees getting frustrated in the life because of insufficient understanding.
They should not be give advanced concepts before 23 and very advanced concepts before 30.
Thus, we can help the devotees to take right decisions in their right age.
Otherwise, they will decide their future way of life even when they are immatured.
Now, in your case, you have been upset with the material world.
In this age, this is unnecessary.
Without going to job, you will have to expect others for your every need.
Containing yourself within home may lead to a psychological issues or imbalances in future.
You may be detached from the society.
Therefore, change yourself. Go to the job. Marry a devotee boy, follow devotion as a grahastha and become matured in life day by day.
Only because many devotees behave like you, the parents fear to send their children to sathsanghas.
Even the sathsanghas should understand the fear of the parents and follow the tips given for four groups of trainings.
This will avoid many issues.
Do as I advised here and start to be a normal girl hereafter. Don’t develop a hatred about this life.
Make it blissful by working without attachment to the results alone and also following the devotional practices meant for every age.
All the best.