How to deal with the Material Attachment, Detachment & Devotee Association?
“A male devotee (Name hidden)” asked like this:
“hare krishna pr.. m question is what is material attachment? how its come why n when.. n how’ll get detach from it.. and what is association of devotee. why we need and what is the importance of devotee association. thank u… hare krishna..”
Material attachment means having preference in interacting with the ‘short lived’ materials and people and considering them as our eternal belongings or relations.
(Read HERE to know the difference between love, mercy and attachment!)
In other words, filling our consciousness with temporary material thoughts skipping our eternal associate Krishna . Or, always thinking of them and living for adding them and satisfying them.
What are temporary things?
(1) People and their bodily relations. We had different parents , wife/ husband, children, etc, in our previous birth. They ended with the death of our body. Now, in this birth, we have different parents, spouse, children, etc. They are relations for our body of this birth only.
We have taken this body now and also have these relations. When we leave this body, will we take our parents or spouse or children with us? Even a multi billionaire has to leave his relations on earth and leave one day. So, they are called bodily relations.
What about the materials like air conditioner, cars, two wheelers, computer, mobile, social media, etc? We are very much attached with these things. If we do not have them even a single day, we feel or cry for them. When we leave this body, will we take FB, twitter, system, mobile, car, etc with us? No. We leave them when we leave our body. So, they are materials.
If you become mad if you are unable to chat with your parents or girl friend even for one day, that means, you are very much materially attached with them. If you become agitated when you are unable to log in to FB one day, you are too attached with FB. These are all just for examples.
HOW TO DETACH?
Then, what to do to detach from them? Should you run away from parents, spouse, social media, mobile, etc? No. Use them or deal with them only for satisfying Krishna. How?
Involve your spouse in Krishna consciousness. Educate him/ her properly. Keep on trying till you die to make your spouse a devotee. Though you do not succeed in your efforts, even your efforts will be taken into account by Krishna. Don’t worry.
(READ THESE 22 Tips to avoid differences if your husband is not interested in devotion!)
Use system or mobile for learning or preaching Krishna consciousness. Use car for selling more books on Lord and preaching. Thus, we can convert material into spiritually oriented.
If you lose our mobile or system or FB account, do not cry. Take it as the will of Krishna for some reasons, say, to engage you in some other productive acts.
What about relations? When my father was counting his last minutes, and doctor said that he will die within 3-4 hours definitely and I can inform my relatives, what I did? I went to the post office and gave telegrams to all my relatives, brothers and sisters as “Father dead. Come soon” so that they can come earlier and reach home without delay for funeral. After returning from telegraph office, I saw my father was still struggling in breathing. I prayed the Lord to give him good status after leaving. He died within 2 hrs silently. At that moment, I did not cry. Because, I did every support for him when he was alive. I was keeping him very happy as a good son. So, I had done my duty as perfectly as possible. So, I need not cry after death as I have no guilt.
I thought: “Today, he has left. Tomorrow I too may leave. Who is immune to death?”
So, I took this incidence of the death of my kind devotee father, as the unavoidable event.
This is called the detached mindset. Sorry for having given my example as I am comfortable with my own experience.
(Why should we love our family members since Krishna advices to give up attachments? READ HERE!)
Here, a question may arise:
When we are detached, how can we get the required things for life? If we have firm faith, Lord will make it happen. If a product or person is destined for us, it will come to us at any cost even without efforts. All we have to do is, to do our duties effectively without attachment to results. Just as a duty. But, we should not stop working. Work as a duty. That’s all.
This is the good effect of detached mindset.
WHAT IS DEVOTEE ASSOCIATION?
Material Association means being in the company of other persons/ products not related to Krishna.
Association makes the character and life style of a person. Even if a boy took birth as a son of a king, if he lives in the house of a thief since his birth, he will also become a thief.
If we are in the company of devotees, it will be the devotee association and we will be thinking of Lord related things.
(READ HERE 15 Tips to follow the right way of maintaining the association of devotees!)
If we are in the company of Krishna through chanting His names, we become attached to Krishna. So, our consciousness becomes spiritual. This spiritual consciousness is not the characteristic of this material world. It is the characteristic of the spiritual world even on this earth. We will be acting on the spiritual platform though we live in this material world.
So, we should have association with devotees and Lord. This will make our consciousness as Krishna Consciousness that will take us to Lord’s kingdom when we leave this body. We will not take birth on this earth again.
I have explained in a kinder garden style. Hope you are clear now! Think of Krishna and His great devotees! You will become detached from this material world and you will be established on the spiritual platform.