My sister gets angry for everything after following Krishna. What to do?
A Girl devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Hare Krishna Prabhu ji.. I want to tell you that I have a sibling who is a follower of you and a great devotee of Lord Krishna. she loves Kanha like anything… my question is being a sibling cant I joke with my younger sister? she takes it so seriously and fights with me and calls me names insults me. Many times, she has fought with me and she stops talking with me. I have many times made the first attempt and things are again ok.. but again with a small joke she fights. She is a great follower of you.. . Sir, I am very hurt by her behaviour.. she proclaims to be a Krishna bhakt.. is her behaviour correct.. This time I would not make the first attempt to talk I have resolved many times..I love her try to keep her happy take her out, will Lord Krishna accept her prayers her behaviour is such. Sir plz help.
I hope that both of you would have started to talk again by this time. You have said that she is my follower also. So, it is my duty to tune her and similar devotees in this aspect.
He He…This is the PROBLEM IN TRANSITION.
Your sister was a materialistic person once. Now, she is attending sathsangha in temples and hearing lectures. I am also telling that this world is dhuklkalayam and asasvatham, but always remind the people about their duties. So, she might have developed a mindset to hate everything she sees after hearing insufficient preaching by others.
So, I am not the reason for her changes. Because, I NEVER PREACH TO HATE THIS WORLD AND MATERIALISTIC PEOPLE. I always advise the devotees of this page TO LOVE EVEN A DOG AND DOG EATER BECAUSE KRISHNA IS INSIDE THEM ALSO.
So, I humbly state that the problem is with your sister who is hearing single side preachings and partial preachings. That is why, I write about all aspects of spiritual life and problems involved in it. So, I can assure, if she had really followed me, she would have dealt with the relations brilliantly.
Let me give the reason for her such an approach. Some preachers preach that only Krishna is real and eternal. And, to achieve Krishna, one should detach from material bonding that is the condition. Most of the devotees misunderstand this point. They think that DETACHMENT means hating the material things.
How can they hate everything around them? It is practically impossible. She was fed breast milk by her mother who also bore her in her womb for nearly ten months. How can she hate her?
She was taught by her teacher to read language and science. Otherwise, she can not read scriptures. How can she hate her school teacher?
When a girl is with her family members like you, she will be safer than remaining alone. Then, how can she hate you?
If the milkman does not bring milk even a single day, she can not offer milk for Lord. Then, how can she hate milkman?
If the septic tank or waste drainage is blocked and the cleaner does not come to enter into the drainage and remove block, she can not pass stool in toilet. Then how can she hate that sewage cleaner?
If the cloth stores and tailors do not exist in this world, she can not wear any dress. Then, how can she hate tailors and cloth stores?
If there are no dogs and other animals on streets that eat wastes, the streets will be stinking with bad smell and the thieves will dare to enter into the houses. Then, how can she hate dogs and other animals that protect the people?
If there is no policemen, we can not preach safely and perform devotion safely. Then how can we hate policemen?
If there are no military, our country will be captured by enemies. Then, how can we hate kshatriyas?
So, my conclusion is: NO DEVOTEE SHOULD SAY THAT WE SHOULD HATE MATERIAL PEOPLE. IF HE PREACHES SO, HE IS A HALF BOILED DEVOTEE.
Remember: NO ONE CAN HATE ANYONE BECAUSE EVERYONE IS INVOLVED ATLEAST INDIRECTLY IN YOUR LIVES AS LISTED ABOVE.
DETACH FROM MATERIAL WORLD means REALIZE THAT ALL RELATIONS AND OUR STAY IN THIS WORLD IS TEMPORARY and hence LOVE THEM, BUT DO NOT EXPECT ANYONE TO BE WITH YOU ALWAYS. ALWAYS BE PREPARED TO LEAVE THIS WORLD. TILL THAT DO ALL YOUR DUTIES AS A DUTY, NOT THINKING YOU ARE THE KARTHA. ONLY KRISHNA IS DOING, NOT YOU. YOU ARE JUST AN INSTRUMENT.
Did Krishna hate anyone during His stay in earth? He even left gopis like a sanyasi. And, He lived with all His 16,108 wives without any attachment, but did not fail to keep them happy.
Similarly, you too should remain happy with all your family members and be ready to leave this world at any time. Till you live here, be merciful to everyone. If you keep up mercy, you can not hate anyone.
That’s all. So, your sister feels that relations like you are a burden for her as all of you may be more attached with material life. However, she must realize that she should not kick the ladder on which she climbed in life and got this much of awareness in life. If you and your father had not cared her, she would have gone to some slums or orphanage and she could not have become a devotee.
So, those so called devotees who hate others are pretenders, not devotees. They have wrongly understood devotional life. They need counselling seriously.
Ask her to read this counselling and many other devotees should also consider this and should not hate their family and friends and even enemies.