Getting angry after becoming a devotee of Krishna! Tips to follow!
A Girl devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Hare Krishna Prabhu ji.. I want to tell you that I have a sibling who is a follower of you and a great devotee of Lord Krishna. she loves Kanha like anything… my question is being a sibling cant I joke with my younger sister? she takes it so seriously and fights with me and calls me names insults me. Many times, she has fought with me and she stops talking with me. I have many times made the first attempt and things are again ok.. but again with a small joke she fights. She is a great follower of you.. . Sir, I am very hurt by her behaviour.. she proclaims to be a Krishna bhakt.. is her behaviour correct.. This time I would not make the first attempt to talk I have resolved many times..I love her try to keep her happy take her out, will Lord Krishna accept her prayers her behaviour is such. Sir plz help.
REPLY:
I hope that both of you would have started to talk again by this time. You have said that she is my follower also. So, it is my duty to tune her and similar devotees in this aspect.
Getting angry after becoming a devotee of Krishna is the UNIVERSAL PROBLEM FACED BY MOST OF THE DEVOTEES DURING THE TRANSITION FROM BEING A MATERIALISTIC PERSON TO BECOME A MATURED DEVOTEE.
Your sister was a materialistic person once. Now, she is attending sathsangha in the temples and hearing lectures. Of course I am also telling that this world is Dhuklkalayam and Asasvatham, but I always remind the people about their duties and how to lead their lives in thus Dhukkalayam. So, she might have developed a mindset to hate everything after hearing the preaching by others and not following what I actually preach.
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So, I am not the reason for her changes. Because, I NEVER PREACH TO HATE THIS WORLD AND MATERIALISTIC PEOPLE. I always advise the devotees of this media TO LOVE EVEN MATERIALISTIC PERSONS BECAUSE KRISHNA IS INSIDE THEM ALSO and I have always preached against Getting angry after becoming a devotee of Krishna! .
I write about all the aspects of spiritual life and problems involved in it. So, I can assure, if she had really followed me, she would have dealt with the relations brilliantly.
Let me give the reason for her approach. Some preachers preach that only Krishna is real and eternal. And, to achieve Krishna, one should detach from material bonding that is the condition. Most of the devotees misunderstand this point. They think that DETACHMENT means hating the material things.
How can they hate everything around them? It is practically impossible. She was fed breast milk by her mother who also bore her in her womb for nearly ten months. How can she hate her?
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She was taught by her teacher to read language and science. Otherwise, she can not read the scriptures. How can she hate her school teacher?
When a girl is with her family members like you, she will be safer than remaining alone. Then, how can she hate you?
If the milkman does not bring milk even a single day, she can not offer milk to the Lord. Then, how can she hate milkman?
If the septic tank or waste drainage is blocked and the cleaner does not come to remove the block, she can not use the toilet. Then how can she hate that sewage cleaner?
If the cloth stores and tailors do not exist in this world, she can not wear any dress. Then, how can she hate tailors and cloth stores?
If there are no dogs and other animals on streets that eat the wastes, the streets will be stinking with bad smell and the thieves will dare to enter into the houses. Then, how can she hate dogs and other animals that protect the people?
If there is no policemen, we can not preach safely and perform devotion safely. Then how can we hate the policemen?
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If there are no military, our country will be captured by enemies. Then, how can we hate the kshatriyas?
So, my conclusion is: NO DEVOTEE SHOULD PREACH IN SUCH A WAY THAT THE AUDIENCE STARTS TO HATE THE MATERIALISTIC PEOPLE. IF HE PREACHES SO, IT IS NOT A PROPER PREACHING.
Remember: NO ONE CAN HATE ANYONE BECAUSE EVERYONE IS INVOLVED ATLEAST INDIRECTLY IN YOUR LIVES AS LISTED ABOVE.
Detaching from the material world means to realize that all the relations and our stay in this world are temporary and hence love them, but do not expect anyone to be with you always. Always be prepared to leave this world. Till that, do all your duties just as a duty, not thinking you are the kartha, ie, doer. Your Gunas only act as fixed by your karma itself and as per the plans of Krishna, not you. You are just an instrument.
Did Krishna hate anyone during His stay in earth? He performed sweet lilas with the Gopis, but at the same time, He even left the GOPIS like a sanyasi. And, He lived with all His 16,108 wives without any attachment, but did not fail to keep them happy.
Similarly, you too should remain happy with all your family members and be ready to leave this world at any time. Till you live here, be merciful to everyone. If you keep up mercy, you can not hate anyone. And, Getting angry after becoming a devotee of Krishna is a state of immaturity.
That’s all. So, your sister feels that the relations like you are a burden for her as all of you may be more attached with material life. However, she must realize that she should not kick the ladder on which she climbed up in life and got this much of awareness in life. If you and your father had not cared her, she would have gone to some slums or orphanage and she could not have become a devotee.
So, the so called devotees who hate others are pretenders, not the matured devotees. They have wrongly understood the devotional life. They need counselling seriously.
Ask her to read this counselling. Other devotees should also read and follow this and should not hate their family and friends and even enemies.
A matured devotee would have forgotten how to hate others. They know nothing but following and distributing the mercy and kindness to others.
So, your sister seems to be in the stage of transition stage. It will take some period to get the maturity of showing mercy on others.
Hope these tips help to correct Getting angry after becoming a devotee of Krishna!
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