How to avoid committing Vaishnava Aparatha repeatedly?
A Girl devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Hare Krishna Ji. Pls accept my pranam. At times we tend to get bitter experiences within devotee community and we are unable to forget and continuously committing vaishnav apradh within. Anytime that devotee is serving Krishna am thinking of apradhs done. What to do? Like this I will keep committing offences which will surely effect my sadhna. What to do? Am trying to tell myself that am not too pure I have also done deadly karmas still am committing offences against that Vaishnav. Pls guide me”
REPLY:
Committing Vaishnava aparatha (Offense) is an easily avoidable offense, but many do not avoid.
It is not a tough process and anyone can refrain from committing vaishnava aparatha (Offense).
Offense may be serious, but, reformation is easy.
Let us read how.
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Most of the Vaishnava Aparathas are committed through words.
Since the words come from mind, first he thinks negatively about other vaishnavas.
Generally, we understand the real situation of a person only after thinking of him negatively.
Because of negative thinking, we deliver our thoughts and views through words.
In rare cases, we plan and act to destabilize another vaishnava.
Every Vaishnava might have faced atleast a few devotees who do not understand his motives and actions correctly but later understand the reality.
You are telling that you are committing Vaishnava Aparatha repeatedly against the vaishnavas.
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The reasons may be:
(i) You may be having a casual approach in devotion.
(ii) You may judge other devotees with some expectations. When they are unable to help you, it may make you to think against them.
(iii) You may think big about yourself.
(iv) You may approach a devotee without analyzing his real nature. So, more chances of negative response and hence you may speak against them.
(v) You may be too much of emotional in nature. Such devotees praise a devotee to the sky, but when his expectations are not fulfilled, he throws that devotee to the ground suddenly.
(vi) You may have negative or fault finding approach with others sometimes. This may make you speak against someone easily.
(vii) You may have over expectation from others beyond their capacity. So, negative response and hence negative views.
(viii) You may not have tongue control. So, you may speak easily about others adding aparatha.
(ix) You may not have the regulations in thoughts about others.
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Let us now see how to avoid committing Vaishnava Aparatha against the Vaishnavas:
(i) First stop over thinking. Be practical and accept others along with their negatives.
(ii) Stop talking unnecessarily. Talk only if necessary.
(iii) Resolve to talk only about Krishna to others and Only when asked.
(iv) Resolve not to talk about others when they are not there.
(v) Whenever you talk to others in front of them, resolve to only praise their good acts and avoid talking about any of his negatives.
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(vi) When praising other vaishnavas, don’t expect anything from him back.
(vii) Instead of speaking about others, focus more on cultivating your vaishnava qualities.
(viii) Follow silence as much as possible that is the recommended nature for the spiritual sathakas.
(ix) Consider yourself as the straw on the roadside as said by the Lord Caitanya.
(x) Always remain engaged in your duties to maintain your own life and the sadhanas to please Krishna. If you don’t get free time, you won’t have time to speak about others committing Vaishnava Aparatha.
(xi) Above all, to burn our negatives and to develop total humbleness, we should associate with the senior and humble vaishnavas. Association with neophite devotees alone is not sufficient. We should also associate with the senior vaishnavas of humble nature. This will lead to the transfer of their Vaishnava qualities to us. Thus, we can get reformed. This is how hundreds of offensive boys and girls got transformed as good vaishnavas because of the association of Srila Prabhupada.
Follow these tips to avoid committing Vaishnava Aparatha.
In case you had hurt any vaishnava(s) in the past, go and seek their pardon and get pardoned.
Thus, you can get freed from the past and future Vaishnava Aparatha.
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