Why should we love our family members since Krishna advices to give up attachments?

Why should we love our family members since Krishna advices to give up attachments?

Actual Question from a male devotee:

“Everyone says that we have some responsibilities towards our family, relatives, our teacher etc. But in the 2nd chapter of Shrimad Bhagwat Gita, it is said that the affection towards these relationships is our stupidity. It this what is written in Shrimad Bhagwat Gita.?”

REPLY:

Bhagavad gita advises you TO AVOID ATTACHMENTS ONLY, NOT THE PEOPLE.  This is how people misunderstand Bhagavad Gita and hate their parents and other people.

Hating parents is a cruel act for any normal person.  It is a psychological issue.  Only cruel persons will hate his mother or father (If we take both of them are well disciplined). Though they are offensive, one need not hate anyone, but see them mercifully.

Yes, you have to take care of your family also, including parents.   FAMILY is needed for a peaceful society.  If there is no family system in this society, there will be chaos.  So,  while performing Krishna Consciousness,  take care of your parents, wife and children also.  Because they are helping you in your devotional practices.  So, we have to honour them.

A man has duties for his parents too.   In SRI Sampradhaya, a person is allowed to take sanyasa only after 50 and only after marrying and leading a grahastha life as per varnashrama dharma.

Because, he is expected to complete his duties for his family, parents and children.

After stabilising his family to a certain level and after entrusting his wife to his children, he is allowed to take sanyasa. Thus, only the SRI Sampradhaya follows the Varnashrama system correctly. They do not allow direct sanyasa in this cruel kaliyuga.  I appreciate this system if I consider the trend of this kaliyuga.  As the varnashrama dharma is strictly followed, there is no remarkable fall  Downs from sanyasa in Sri Sampradhaya.  Because, he has crossed Grahastha ashrama and hence he would have lost his attachment to KAMA.  So, he is able to follow sanyasa steadily.

Even recently, We read in news that a new Jeer (guru) took charge in Srirangam Mutt (Sri Sampradhaya) who was once a grahastha and took sanyasa in his late fifties.

So, such duties to the family members must be sincerely done till they get stabilised. If we escape from family duties, there will be chaos in this planet everywhere.

So, in the name of sprituality, particularly, Krishna Consciousness,  do not hate grahasthashrama in which you have to take care of your parents and family.  Do this JUST AS YOUR ASSIGNED DUTY AS A GRAHASTHA without ATTACHMENTS.

Only attachments should be avoided.  Not the people.  You should never hate anyone, as we are living in a society.  We need all people.

Some arguments will be interesting only while talking / discussing/ preaching.  They will not be practically possible for all.  So, be practical.  Do your duties to your parents also.

I  ASK YOU:    Leaving your parents in Old Age Homes, if you do even 64 rounds of chanting a day, what will be the benefit out of it?  How do you expect that Krishna will be happy to see you keeping your parents in Old Age home just to undergo Krishna Conscious practices?

Why should we be that much cruel?  Why can’t we treat our parents as the creatures of Krishna and hence protect them?  Didn’t Krishna loved His parents when He was in this earth?

So, never leave your parents on streets for performing devotion.  I myself took care of my parents. Though my father died when I was 15, I took care of mother till she died in the age of 90 with love but without attachment, ie, without expecting her relation to be eternal.

I AM OF THE FIRM VIEW THAT ONE NEED NOT DESERT HIS PARENTS FOR DOING KRISHNA CONSCIOUS PRACTICES.  ONLY THOSE WHO HAVE FINISHED ALL RESPONSIBILITIES FOR THEIR PARENTS AND FAMILY SHOULD DESERT THE HOME AND SETTLE IN MUTT OR TEMPLES.  TILL THAT, FOLLOW DEVOTION AT HOME ITSELF.  JUST KEEP YOUR MINDSET WITHOUT ATTACHMENT LIKE A SANYASI.  THEN DO DEVOTIONAL PRACTIES.  THIS WILL WORK OUT WELL INSTEAD OF HATING FAMILY STRUCTURE THAT IS VITAL FOR THE PEACE IN SOCIETY.

You have also asked about Guru (teacher).  if you fulfill the orders of your guru, that itself is the great service to him.  As Srila Prabhupada did.  Though his guru had passed away, he fulfilled his guru’s wish of preaching K.C all over the world.

WHY DO I ALWAYS WRITE AGAINST DESERTING THE FAMILY FOR DOING DEVOTION?

Because, in this matter, I follow Sri Ramana Maharishi who has beautifully spoken about leaving the family for devotion.

Do you like to read what Sri Ramana maharishi said about leaving the family for sanyasi?

Read here:

“INSTEAD OF THINKING OF FAMILY BEING IN THE FORESTS, THINKING OF GOD BEING IN THE FAMILY IS BETTER”

Wowwwww!  Very Nice saying.  Print the above quote in a paper and paste it on the door or wall in your house or temple.

We have to take the good thing from wherever we get it whether it is Ramana maharishi or Sankaracharya or Srila Prabhupada.  Thus, take this also as an authoritative saying.

Do your duties towards your guru (teacher) even from within the family.

Hope this reply helps you.

Author: RAJAN

RAJAN from Tamil Nadu, India, has decades of association with the devotees of Krishna. He is promoting many sites and he promotes this blog-website as an E-SATHSANGHA (E-FORUM) to give Spiritual Solutions for all the Material Problems faced by the devotees! In this site, he writes the friendly and practical tips for the practice of devotion (i) without hurting the followers of other paths, (ii) without affecting the personal and career life, and (iii) without the blind, superstitious and ritualistic approach! He has been counselling through social media and websites since the year 2011. His services are guiding more than 1,20,000 serious followers and lakhs of visiting readers! RAJAN accepts no credits for his services but dedicates all the credits to Krishna.

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