I am alone in my family after the death of family members. Why Krishna made me like this?

I am alone in my family after the death of family members.  Why Krishna made me like this?

A devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:

“Please do not reveal my identity.   I have been going through a lot of trauma since a lot of years. Please give your guidance.  I am regular follower of the page and a Krishna devotee since a long time. I will keep my story short.

My mother was first diagnosed with brain tumor when I was in class 2.   And in class 5 she was shifted to live with her mother as there were two old people in my house.  She suffered for 5 years in completely paralysed state and in the last 6 months stayed with me.  She passed away during my 10th board exams.

I was very close with my 100 year old great grandmother and was raised by my grandmother.   My great grandmother due to age passed away in 2014 December.  After that this February end my mother.

And in October my grandmother who was the healthiest and most active person passed away due to very small infection.  Ours being a religious and pious family do everything that is to be done strictly and regularly.

My faith in Krishna is steadfast.  But since my grandmother’s passing I have been very troubled please help.  I’m only 16 and emotionally very strong.  Now I live alone in our house,which once housed a joint family.  Why does Krishna keep testing his devotees what wrong have I done?


In fact, Krishna has been favourable to you so far.  He has not tested you, but favoured you.

How many people have the opportunity to live with mother, grand mother and great grand mother in this world?

You got it.

How many elders lived up to 100 years in this world?

Your great grand mother lived for 100 years and others also lived sufficiently.

The average life time in kaliyuga is just 60-70.  In astrology, one life cycle is calculated as 60 years.  That is why, in Calender, there are only 60 years given names and in the 61st year, the first year starts again.

If we live beyond 60, it is the gift for us.

Thus, you had opportunity to be with elders and to serve them.

Everyone had their life period fixed already.  They lived their fixed time.  Died.

You too are going to die one day.  I too will die one day.  Everyone will.

Only if we are going to live eternally and others alone die, we should feel for that.

They took birth earlier.  Therefore, they died earlier.

You took birth later.  Therefore, you will die after certain years.

Whatever the scientists do, they can’t stop the death for ever.  Though they prolong the death, the organs will lose their ability to function after a certain years.  Then, we ourselves will like to die because of pains of living beyond a limit.

Living beyond a certain age will be tedious.  If you see the old people, they will repeatedly say:  “Oh, when will the god take me?  I am suffering with pains.  Joint pains, breathe issues, muscle pains, negligence by children,  being burden to children, etc, etc…

We can not board bus or train; we can not travel; we can not eat solid foods.

Then, why should we live beyond a certain age?

When my mother died due to old age, if you know what I said to my family members?

“It is good that she has died.  Had she lived further, she would have suffered with pains.  Krishna has been very merciful that He took her when she is able to walk to some extent.  She is a good soul”

Yes, I told so.  All my family members were stunned to hear what I said.

They asked me:  “Don’t you feel sad for the death of your mother?”

I said:  “No.  Why should I feel?  Today, she has gone.  Tomorrow or after a few months or years, I may have to go.  I took care of her very well when she was alive.  No one can stop the death.  And, no one is immuned from death.  Then, why should a person like me feel?  If I cry, I can not say myself as a devotee of Krishna. Those who believe Krishna should accept His rules also.  Birth and death are the standing rules of material life.”

You too should have the same maturity to face the loss of lives around us.  Being the follower of me, you should follow me atleast in this matter.

They have lived.  Gone.

You live a responsible life for Krishna and fulfil the wishes of your parents, grandparents, etc.

What else you can do?

Our hands are crossed.  Understand that.

Author: RAJAN

RAJAN from Tamil Nadu, India, a Life Patron and an Initiated Devotee being in ISKCON for nearly three decades, serves anonymously to avoid Prominence and crowd as an insignificant, Humble and Neutral Servant for all the devotees of Krishna! He promotes Social media forums and this blog-website as e-satsangha (e-forums) blessed with Lakhs of followers, to give Spiritual Solutions for all the Material Problems of the devotees since 2011! He writes friendly and practical tips to practice devotion (i) without hurting the followers of other paths, (ii) without affecting the personal and career life, and (iii) without the blind, superstitious and ritualistic approach! He dedicates all the glories and credits to his Guru and Krishna.

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