How should a devotee take being alone without family in life?
A devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Please do not reveal my identity. I have been going through a lot of trauma since a lot of years. Please give your guidance. I am regular follower of this site and a Krishna devotee since a long time. I will keep my story short.
My mother was first diagnosed with brain tumor when I was in class 2. And in class 5 she was shifted to live with her mother as there were two old people in my house. She suffered for 5 years in completely paralyzed state and in the last 6 months stayed with me. She passed away during my 10th board exams.
I was very close with my 100 year old great grandmother and was raised by my grandmother. My great grandmother due to age passed away in 2014 December. After that this February end my mother.
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And in October my grandmother who was the healthiest and most active person passed away due to very small infection. Ours being a religious and pious family do everything that is to be done strictly and regularly.
My faith in Krishna is steadfast. But since my grandmother’s passing I have been very troubled please help. I’m only 16 and emotionally very strong. Now I live alone in our house, which once housed a joint family. Why does Krishna keep testing his devotees what wrong have I done?
See, the devotees mostly take the situation of being alone without family as a curse.
This is wrong even in the basic consideration.
In fact, Krishna has been favorable to you so far. He has not tested you, but favored you.
How many people have the opportunity to live with mother, grand mother and great grand mother in this world?
You got it.
How many elders lived up to 100 years in this world?
Your great grand mother lived for 100 years and others also lived sufficiently.
The average life time in kaliyuga is just 60-70. In astrology, one life cycle is calculated as 60 years. That is why, in the Panchang, there are only 60 years with assigned names and in the 61st year, the first year starts again.
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If we live beyond 60, it is the extra gift for us.
Thus, you had opportunity to be with elders and to serve them.
Everyone had their life period fixed already. They lived their fixed time. Died.
You too are going to die one day. I too will die one day. Everyone will.
Only if we are going to live eternally and others alone die, we should feel for that.
They took birth earlier. Therefore, they died earlier.
You took birth later. Therefore, you will die after a certain years.
Whatever the scientists do, they can’t stop the death for ever. Though they prolong the death, the organs will lose their ability to function after a certain years. Then, we ourselves will like to die because of the pains of living beyond a limit.
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Living beyond a certain age will be tedious. If you see the old people, they will repeatedly say: “Oh, when will the god take me? I am suffering with pains. Joint pains, breathing issues, muscle pains, negligence by children, being a burden to children, etc., etc…
We can’t board bus or train; we can not travel; we can not eat solid foods.
Then, why should we live beyond a certain age?
When my mother died in her age 90 due to old age, believe me, I said to my family members:
“Very happy that she left peacefully. It is good that she has died on Ekadasi like father. Had she lived further, she would have suffered with pains. Krishna has been very merciful that He took her when she is able to walk to some extent. She is a blessed soul”
Yes, I told so. All my family members saw me not shedding even a single drop of tears. But, I was preparing the Post for next day’s Post for our site sitting near the body of my mother.
Some asked me: “Don’t you feel sad for the death of your mother?”
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I said: “No. Why should I feel? Today, she has gone. Tomorrow, I too may have to go. I took care of her very well when she was alive. No one can stop the death. And, no one has the immunity from death. Then, why should a person like me feel? If I cry, I can not say myself as a three decades of devotee of Krishna. Those who believe Krishna should accept His rules also. Birth and death are the standing rules of material life.”
You too should have the same maturity to face the loss of lives around us. Being the follower of me, I expect that you should follow me in this matter.
And, being alone without family in life is a blessing. It is not a curse. I am being alone without family now after I lost everybody.
Previously, I had many barriers to serve other devotees, but my ONLY DESIRE IN THE DEVOTIONAL LIFE is to PREACH and REFORM MANY DEVOTEES FROM IGNORANCE. I had no other goals.
Krishna knew my genuine desire. He took my bondages one by one. Finally, He took my mother too who was very attached to me as I am a different thinking son for her out of her many children.
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Of course, my mother was very close to me as I am her last child. But she too has to die. I accepted that. I took loving care to her till she is alive. That’s all we can do. I gave her Krishna. She read Gita as her last work. Died on Ekadasi.
Good and glorious death. Why should I cry for her?
They have lived. Gone.
Now, I feel happy that Krishna has made me alone to serve all of you. He has given me lakhs of brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, etc.
I promise you, now, as in this year 2022, I have been serving for the devotees for 14 to 16 hours a day thru sites, private counselling, horoscope service, etc. that are making the devotees feeling confident of facing their life.
So, I feel, being alone is a blessing. You are free to do wonders.
A reporter asked Dr.APJ. Abdul kalam: “Why did you not marry?”
He simply said: “I had no time to think of it as I was working for the country till 4AM in the morning.”
Thus, being alone is a boon for everyone because he can serve the masses. This is really a boon.
So, I like to tell of you: If you get married, good. Follow devotion with the spouse. If you do not get married at all, very very good. Serve the whole planet. Don’t waste your life.”
Though you are being alone without family, lead a responsible life for Krishna and fulfil the wishes of your parents, grandparents, etc. Serve the devotees as much as possible.
What else you can do?
Our hands are crossed. Understand that.
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