Facing the failures and issues of life! Complete tips!
A devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Namaste Prabhuji, I offer my obeisance to you for giving regular articles through this website. Also, always thankful for making us overcome our problems with your articles. I want to ask that i want to do something great for my life but i cannot do anything. Also, if there is even small failure in my life, i stopped to do my duties. I was not able to do my duties and feel guilty myself and felt that i am missing more opportunities in my life. I think that i was really very bad and feel sorry for Krishna. Krishna is giving this life and i am not doing my duty said by krishna. Whether i was really bad? Also, by thinking that i feel frustrated, depressed and stopped to doing my duties. It’s a request to you please conceal my name.”
REPLY:
No need to worry about how to learn facing the failures and issues of life?.
I too was like that in young age.
Ability to face the negatives in our life comes only with the advancement of age and with more and more experiences we face.
Reasons for being Sensitive to failures and issues in life are:
(i) We consider others very important and hence we like to make everyone a perfect person.
(ii) We are thinking that this world should exist with only good people.
(I lost interest in devotion and stopped going to temple because of failures. What to do? READ HERE!)
(iii) We expect that others should hear our words and act as expected by us and should respect us.
(iv) We expect that we should get only success.
Let me explain the above tips facing the failures and issues of life, one by one:
(1) Willing to make others perfect:
There is no chance to make all the others perfect.
See, karma is strongly controlling us that do not leave even the sanyasis, ie, renounced persons in kaliyuga.
Everyone is blessed with a certain mix of guna (modes) even when he takes birth.
(Why I am facing failures and my marriage is also cancelled today, though I m a devotee of Krishna? READ HERE!)
He takes birth packed with a “NATURE” that is fixed based on the mix of three modes – mode of goodness, mode of passion and mode of ignorance.
This mix is unique for every person like the palm lines.
You may try to totally reform anyone with the lectures or writings.
But, he has acquired his original nature for many decades since birth.
So, just with a single session of counselling, we can not totally reform that person.
After hearing the advice, he should implement them by living with good people for long period and living as a good person like them.
Only then, he can reform himself.
Even after that, if he leaves the company of those good people, HE MAY AGAIN REMEMBER HIS OLD LIFE STYLE AND FALL DOWN FROM HIS REFORMED CHARACTER.
(Why the devotees face more failures in getting everything in life? READ HERE!)
That is why, it is said that ONE’S NATURE BY BIRTH CAN NOT BE TOTALLY & PERMANENTLY CHANGED.
It may be in a dormant state even after we start to lead a good life.
When we allow a gap without the company of good people, that dormant nature will come out making us vulnerable to violations again.
That is why, it is advised that one should not get stop with getting reformed within mind, but, he should always live in the company of good people to avoid fall down again.
(2) THIS WORLD CAN NOT HAVE ONLY GOOD PEOPLE:
Why?
Krishna’s Karma network uses bad people to teach lessons to someone and to make them add new karma.
Because, if I had cheated someone in my previous birth, I should be cheated by someone in this birth as per the equation of karma.
So, someone should exist on earth to cheat me now. So, there will always be both good and bad people on this earth.
(I fear for fall down from devotion and waste of life. What to do? READ HERE!)
If all the bad people are evacuated, the karma network will have no work.
(3) EXPECTING OTHERS TO HEAR OUR WORDS & ACT AS EXPECTED BY US:
No chance. Because a person is living in this world only because he has some ego about his individuality and some attachments with the persons and the things of this world. If he gets the maturity that it is the god who is doing everything and he is only an instrument in the hands of God, he will not live here and he will get liberated from bondage here itself.
See, In previous yugas, the people won’t start eating on any day unless they have not had any guest on that day to have food at their house. They will eat only after feeding the guest such as sanyasis, beggars, poor, devotees, etc.
But, in this kaliyuga, the people have forgotten such good practices.
This is happening even in the devotional services. Many people are unable to understand the real value of the devotional services done by some genuine devotees. But, they fall prey in the hands of bogus spiritual personalities.
(In Kaliyuga, How to follow Nishkam bhakti without asking help from Krishna? READ HERE!)
Why this happens?
It is the trend of kaliyuga.
In this kaliyuga, the people like to be cheated. So, most of the people would go behind the cheaters. Because, the people of kaliyuga are strongly screened by maya. So, only the negatives will look attractive to them. Positives will not attract them.
(4) WE EXPECT ONLY THE SUCCESS:
This is very true.
Who likes to face failures?
Everyone is working or living to succeed in their goals.
(Devotees should be Humble, Not Coward! – An Interesting Analysis! READ HERE!)
But, only if our karma network allows it, we can taste success in anything.
Success is a test for us to prove our humbleness even after getting the blessings.
Failure is a blessing or escape from big miseries.
So, Failures are also good.
For the devotees, Krishna gives failures in the targets that will deviate a person from devotion.
So, failures are also good.
If we learn to handle the above four aspects, we will learn facing the failures and issues of life.
Hope you are clear about how to learn facing the failures and issues of life.
(Is Changing religion to come out of all problems right? READ HERE!)