Feeling useless in Career, Personal & Spiritual lives? Tips!
A Girl devotee asked like this:
Hare Krishna anna, with every passing year with every passing moment I m getting more and more depressed thinking I didn’t achieve any thing exemplerary till now, just did my graduation and after that it’s been ……… years I just wasted my time doing nothing concrete, where should I satisfy myself, neither I am spiritually consistent, neither in career wise and about personal life I am all alone and seek every random guy as my would be, I am amazed onto myself seeing such desperacy and devasted doing nothing.
Nowadays people are too smart. they know there goals, targets, how to lead life and I m just passing every single second just randomly, I am not able to take my life like this doing bathing sleeping eating and doing job of 10k in spite of having own business which has no clientage till now. What should I do persistently do deviate my depressive demotivated thoughts please help Anna please. Yes you told me to be in devotion yes I can’t do rounds, I hear KATHA, I read your post what next my concise abused me of being idle after graduation please help me Anna, took me as ur little stupid sister please guide me enlighten me…
REPLY:
Why are you feeling useless?
No one in this world is useless.
Every material or living being has been sent here to be useful for some other people.
Even the bees collect honey and supply to the people.
Cows live and supply their milk for the people.
The dogs protect the houses like policemen.
In Tamil, there is a saying: “Even a small piece of wood stick will be useful as toothpick (to clear the food particles from between the teeth).”
So, no one in this world is waste.
(What are the jobs suitable to follow devotion also? READ HERE!)
Leading a wealthy life alone is not a successful life.
Materially, If you had lived a life that is useful for others, it is a successful life.
Spiritually, if you lead a life that is useful for other vaishnavas, it is a successful life.
In other words, just serving the Vaishnavas is the only way to success in devotional life.
Krishna will be happy when we serve His devotees.
In your case, you are wise. That is why, you are self analysing.
You invited some problems from boys by trusting them blindly.
Blind trust is the fools’ emotion.
Everyuone in this world is clever. No one is innocent.
You too must be clever and selfish. Because, when you got a boy, you forgot Krishna.
That means, when you got a boy, you forgot Krishna and spent life in the thoughts of that boy.
Now, when that boy has shown his true color, you are coming back to Krishna.
This is what I call as a selfish devotion.
(I, aged 40, get no job though I chant 66 rounds daily. What to do? READ HERE!)
This is like using Krishna only when we face a difficulty and forgetting Him when we are happy.
So, everyone is sufficiently clever.
But, always keep in mind, Krishna does not directly involve in the issues of clever people.
Krishna likes innocence like a child.
A child is always dependant on its parents.
When it feels hungry it calls the mother by crying.
When it is given food, it nicely smiles at the same mother.
But, it is with the parent all the time depending on them.
So, the child feels safe when it is with only its parents. A child has no such feeling useless.
When we are with Krishna, we are safe.
(SERVING KRISHNA USING YOUR JOB/ CAREER – USEFUL TIPS! READ HERE!)
When we leave or forget Krishna, we are at risk.
See girl, I am doing this Preaching Service for the past many years. Not even a single day break.
No Salary. No incentives. No physical helpers. A highly risky service because if I don’t make arrangements of earning sufficiently, such investments will lead to loss. Still this service is going on successfully.
The people have changing minds. Today, they may consider someone as better. Tomorrow, they may feel someone else better.
See the Viral posts of Twitter or Whatsapp. Today, the people praise a particular leader. Suddenly, they will start to support another leader.
How many times I would have faced head ache in the past 14 years?
How many times I would have faced fever or heart issues in the past 14 years?
How many times I would have been “out of mood” in the past 14 years?
You know very well, my mother died, I was admitted to ICU for severe health issues in the year 2019 & also in 2023 and stopped the functions of my business, etc.
In spite of all these tough testing times, Our Online Preaching service has not stopped even a single day.
(Is it possible to please Krishna while doing our job of earning money? READ HERE!)
Why?
Dedication. We should aim and dedicate for perfection in our every effort.
We should serve the Lord’s devotees in such a manner that they do not get upset though some of them make us upset.
We may get disappointments because of our karma, but we should not allow others to get disappointed.
We may suffer with pains, but we should not cause pain to others.
This is called responsibility in the Public Service.
Only because our media has been this much honest in its service, Krishna has made this service successful in this competitive internet media.
Why have I given these details?
Consistency. It is required in our every effort and dedication.
It is not wrong to think of Krishna only during testing times. Because, He is our only well wisher.
But, you should not forget Krishna when you are happy.
That is important.
(I am unable to chant because of job. Should I change the job or drop chanting? READ HERE!)
When we always give priority to Krishna in life even during ups and downs, we will be safe in all situations.
Now, you are in difficulty that has given a feel of emptiness and frustration.
When we are pressed by problems, we should work more for Krishna and we should chant more.
This will soften the severity of the problems we are facing.
So, resolve that you will never forget Krishna in future even if you become the most successful person.
Do not develop a feeling useless in life.
Make yourself useful atleast in the service to Krishna. Be in touch with the local temple and do possible services.
Improve your devotional standing.
Become a dedicated devotee with consistent dedication to Krishna.
Seeing your consistency and dedication, GOOD DEVOTEES will contact you for matrimonial alliance.
If you are away from devotional way of life, only cheaters will approach you.
(Why a devotee needs a job or business though Krishna protects all? READ HERE!)
But, when you become a dedicated devotee, your image gets purified and updated and hence the way others see you will change positively.
You will be eligible to seek alliances from among good quality devotees.
So, to get a good husband, you should make yourself a good, dedicated devotee girl.
When other devotees see you as a sincere and responsible devotee, they will come forward to marry you.
Thus, you will get good alliances.
If you are oscillating between this and that, you can’t get good alliance from either devotees or other people.
So, You should evaluate yourself honestly and identify your flaws and then take honest steps to correct them.
This will give a good identity for you as a good, dedicated devotee.
So, you will get good spouse.
Though you are a wise person, you say that you have poor earning and feeling useless.
This shows that you are involving in unwanted things and wasting your productive energy.
If you become successful by focusing only in your profession, you will become popular in your area. So, good persons will approach you to marry.
To increase the earnings, focus in career and devotion alone.
Keep seeking alliances aside for some period till you become a successful doctor and a dedicated devotee.
When a girl becomes successful in her career, she will be approached by many competitive boys to marry.
So, my advice to you is that focus in career and devotion alone for the next two years and strengthen your Bio data.
Other things will automatically follow.
SO, STOP FEELING USELESS. Make yourself useful from today.
(Loss of interest in job after following devotional practices! Solutions! READ HERE!)