What if my family does not allow me getting initiation (diksha) now?
“Hare krishna prabhuji.. i beleive a lot in kc n i chant daily more than 16 rounds n m pure vegeterian… i want 2 take Harinaam bt my family wont allow.. wht 2 do.. they dont allow me 2 keep ekadashi as they say unmarried girls dont keep thz fast”
Nice to know that you are chanting 16 rounds and like to take Hari Nam initiation. This is not a big issue. Just talk to your parents frankly and assure them that you will do all the household works and studies and job perfectly even after taking Hari Nam Initiation.
In general, the parents fear when their children talk of advancing in devotion.
Usually, the parents have a fear that their children will become like sanyasi if they take initiation and they will not love them as before. In fact, they fear that their child will go out of their hands after initiation. They also fear about some rules after initiation that speaks about controlled sexual acts after marriage just for begetting children. They fear because the girl will suffer if her husband does not co-operate with her devotion.
Thus, there are many reasons for the parents to fear. The life in this world is always a constant fight between maya and Krishna Consciousness. If you try to adopt K.C seriously, the people attached with maya will always object it. This is nothing new. We have to face these things in our spritual life.
There is only one solution for this: Initiation does not require a devotee to quit his job, or to live in temples compulsorily or to quit marriage, etc. It just advises certain regulations in our every activity. That’s all.
If we like to go to Krishna, we must purify ourselves, because Krishna is pure. So, we can not associate with Him with our impurity of material attachments. So, we need to purify us. In this process, a guru can help us. So, we surrender to him. That’s all. Guru accepts your karma mercifully and purify you. Then, he guides you either directly or indirectly to perform K.C consistently.
So, your parents need not fear for your taking initiation. However, there is an important thing to remember: If you take initiation, it is always better to marry a devotee boy so that all your spiritual activities can be continued further.
Another thing is, a guru will give you initiation only if your parents agree. If they object, he will not give. So, request your temple president or temple manager (whoever it may be) to talk to your parents in person and explain them the points I have mentioned above.
In case, your parents never allow you to take initiation after every efforts, if you have attained age for marriage , first marry a devotee boy and then take initiation, because, after marriage, the consent of your husband is enough.
Just develop your desire to have a guru for your spritual development. krishna will definitely fulfill it in appropriate time.
What to do till that?
Till you get initiation from a guru, read Srila Prabhupada’s books and be in touch with him through his books. There will be a/ some siksha guru(s) in your temple. So, till you get initiation, follow the instructions of Srila Prabhupada and other siksha guru(s). In fact, you have to honour your siksha guru & Srila Prabhupada even after your initiation.
Pray to Krishna to remove the barrier in getting your desired guru. He will definitely do that.
Initiation should not be taken just because others in your temple take. An initiated devotee should genuinely follow the instructions of his/ her guru. You must evaluate yourself whether you can follow all the rules stipulated by your guru. So, before taking initiation, get the instruction manual for initiated disciples prepared and supplied by every guru in their websites or disciple communities. Better to discuss with them. Though the rules are common, it is better to read the manual in advance well. After reading them, if you are confident that you can follow them, or, TRY to follow them, then take initiation. Otherwise, wait for some more time and then take after making yourself ready for that. I have added this TAIL PIECE because, a (small) section of disciples fail to follow the vows they took while taking initiation. That is not adviseable. As you take vows before your guru and agni, you must try your level best to follow those vows.
I have read this advice of H.H.Radhanath Swami Maharaj : “Though a devotee takes initiation, only if he/ she follows the saadhanas properly, he/ she can go back to Krishna. (That means, Just taking initiation and being casual will not help to achieve our goal).”
All the best and have a successful devotional life.