Dealing with Ego & Pride while following Krishna Bhakti! Nice Tips!
A girl devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Hare Krishna Prabhu 🙏 After I started reading BG and chanting , I can see changes in me over a period of time. Before I didn’t know..some qualities belong to ignorant people and some passionate , goodness and all. Now, people whom I feel they are good and close to me….I have started seeing bad in them ..in sense the way they speak to elders, too much materialistic, their behavior, habits and all. I am not feeling comfortable ..they are my family and friends Prabhu. I don’t have association of devotees also. I feel I am only different in my association..does’t mean I am too good. .but I feel scared, insecure and lonely to be in this kind of association . I am scared to see this world . I want to overcome to see this tendency of seeing bad in others . I do no how to overcome this . Plz give me some suggestions Prabhu .”
This happens among the devotee circles.
But, this is during the initial stage only.
When one comes to Krishna Bhakti from a family that is highly materialistic without devotional background, he will feel himself as a fortunate guy who has got Krishna when others in his family or circle could not.
(AFTER COMING TO DEVOTION, I HATE MARRIAGE AND LIKE TO SETTLE IN THE TEMPLE. CAN I DO SO? READ HERE!)
In the initial stage He develops some kind of pride that he is fortunate and others are not. He will start to see even his parents cheaply as if seeing the ignorant people.
He thinks that he has great qualities whereas his family and friends are very ignorant and they are not fit to be his associates.
Other devotees too praise him very liberally even if he performs a small service. Others use the words such as Pure devotee, Close to Krishna, even when he is a budding neophyte devotee.
So, though he likes to remain in the domination of satva guna, some pride develops.
So, he slowly distances himself from the materialistic faily, friends, etc.
A devotee should never think like that.
Because, this world needs all types of people.
(After coming to devotion, I hate and avoid non-devotee family and others that makes them angry. Why Krishna allows this? READ HERE!)
A country needs rajo guna dominated people to protect the country from the enemies.
A country needs thamo guna dominated people to work under others.
The brahmanas and vaishnavas who are dominated only with satva guna, can not effectively perform farming, fighting war, labourious jobs, etc.
So, we need the mix of all types of people in this world.
That is why, Krishna Himself said that only one in thousands of people will think of Him.
He did not say that all the people can be made as His devotees.
A devotee in the initial stage forgets this fact that ALL ARE IMPORTANT and insult or atleast consider others as ignorant persons.
You need not worry.
(Is Grahastha life Impure & Inferior? Can a Grahastha go back to Krishna? READ HERE!)
Now, you would have understood that this is the way of thinking the initial, matured stage in devotion.
When you buy a new bike, you will feel as if you are a superman and you will see those who go by bicycle with pity.
After a week or month, the craze with your bike goes.
Every husband and wife knows how his/ her spouse behaved with him/ her during the initial days after their marriage.
There is a silent trend in the devotional circles.
Many newly initiated devotees start to maintain distance from the non initiated devotees. They feel as if they have gone up in their devotional life. They forget that getting initiation is the START of committed devotional life, NOT THE END. In fact, no one can complete the devotional qualification as no one can get absolute perfection as no one can becme equal to Krishna in purity.
(I feel shy to follow devotion in front of my family members. What to do? READ HERE!)
I too have been facing some ups and downs in this preaching service because only some matured and selfless devotees are constantly supporting this service.
So, the religious/ devotional identities and statuses create pride in the minds of the devotees.
So, many devotees will be “over excited” during the initial days of coming to the devotion when they receive appreciation from others.
When they learn more and associate with the devotees, they will attain maturity in devotional life and they will learn to avoid insulting the non devotees.
So, you need not worry for thinking low about others just because you started to follow devotion to Krishna.
Learn more; Associate with the matured devotees more.
(Should a Neophite devotee perform rituals for ancestors and family God? READ HERE!)
Face the experiences of life.
In due course of time, you too will start to see Krishna in everyone and everything.
Then, you will not feel high about yourself and low about others.
Do not feel guit. Treat all others as the unavoidable persons.
Have close association with the matured devotees and have formal contacts with others.
But, never hate anyone..
Grow more and more in devotion.
These changes in your approach are just the elementary level transformation stages.
This evolution may take some time, even years.
But, it will gradually vanish.
Hope you are clear about dealing with Ego & Pride while following Krishna bhakti!
(My Vedic Brahmana family is against ISKCON way of devotion. How to explain? READ HERE!)