Is forgetting bad experiences of life difficult? Nice Spiritual Tips!
A devotee who requested to hide the name asked like this:
“Why are we unable to forget the bad experiences that we have had in life? If someone has insulted us, we keep remembering the same incident again and again in life. How can we get rid of this problem?”
REPLY:
Why forgetting bad experiences of life difficult? Because, it is the nature of human beings as they are under the clutch of MATERIAL ATTACHMENTS. The result of attachment is that Good may seem bad and vice versa.
AS BAD THINGS CREATE STRONG IMPACT IN OUR MIND, WE ARE UNABLE TO FORGET THEM.
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Some Good Examples:
(1) If Srila Prabhupada says to follow 4 regulative principles, chant 16 rounds, take only prasadam, no onion, garlic etc, the crowd is very less there. Whereas if a materialistic man who is in sanyasi dress speaks that the devotees will get everything they want if they just clean his feet, the people are waiting in queue to clean his feet even by paying Rs.20,000 or 25,000 as fee for an opportunity to clean his feet. I know some so called bogus spiritual guys who charge even for diksha.
Good things do not attract the people. Only bad things attract them.
(2) If a teacher who is the best in explaining lessons is strict in the class in maintaining the discipline, only a few students like that teacher. If a teacher cuts Adult jokes and allow the students to discuss freely in the class, that teacher is the best teacher for the students.
(3) If his traditionally dressing wife is cooking excellently, a husband will not praise her. But, if the crooked, but, beautiful wife of his friend cooks well, he praises her from sky to earth to his friend. He does not know that she pokes him after he leaves their home.
(4) Though his wife is very beautiful but, without harms, a husband gets bored as she always reminds the family responsibilities as a responsible wife. But, if his office women co staff praises him for getting promotion, he feels that she is a nice woman who has understood him rightly.
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(5) If you open a news paper in the morning, the news like “ISRO scientists sent aircrafts to Mars” will not attract us and we will read only the heading and go to other news. But, if there is news like “Woman who has illicit affair with the husband of another woman was killed by her husband” attract us. Why? Negative news has more appeal.
(6) Some persons may have a beautiful wife. She may be of shy type as it is the nature of many women. He must feel happy for having a shying girl as wife. But, he may like to enjoy life unlimitedly. So, he may have relations with some other girls. When he is caught by police if any girl plans and cheats him, he feels for his actions. Though he has beautiful wife, why he had relations with other girls? Because, for some persons, secret acts give more thrill than having licensed relations with wife. Illegalities are always attractive for those who are in the seriously conditioned state.
(7) You may stand in a queue to get a ticket for the next train. It seems that it will take atleast one hour for the queue to complete and his turn to come. Someone is standing some distance away selling train tickets with a premium of 30% extra. He goes to him and pays 30% extra and gets that ticket instantly. So, illegalities give more satisfaction to him.
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Thus, Only bad things impact us more than good things. As they create more impact in our mind, our mind is unable to forget it easily.
However, if you realize that everything in this world is temporary and we too will leave this world one day, we will not lament for losses. Everyone in this world has faced losses and disappointments. So, believe in the concept of karma and we are all under the control of karma and we can’t determine what should happen next.
Why do we need this much of attachments with the attractions? We came to this world alone and we are going to leave alone. We are not going to take any material or persons with us. Only our pious, good and bad deed will come with us when we leave.
Just because the negatives attract us more, we need not involve in them and acquire negative karma that will definitely give a disturbed next birth again.
In this world all good things seem difficult. But, they give us good status.
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Devotion to Krishna and attaining Krishna Prema may still be difficult. But, its result will be the eternal status as the blissful servant of Krishna in His Kingdom itself.
So, we should learn to give no importance for bad things that are easily achievable. Then, we will be able to forget them easily.
We can just pray to Lord Krishna to give us strength to face our karma successfully without getting destabilized. And we can seriously involve in Krishna Consciousness practices that will help us to forget our pains.
It is the proven fact that more we get higher taste of Krishna, we will easily forget these lower tastes.
Hope this will help you to know the way of forgetting bad experiences of life though it is difficult.
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