My hostel room mate is from another religion that irritates me. What to do?
A girl devotee asked like this:
Jai shree krishna, I’m staying in hostel for first time and very far away from my home and parents. In our village, I went to temple every morning and evening. Anyway I thought my day begins with seeing aarthi to god. Now there is no temple and I can’t go every day that’s one problem. Next one is my roommate she is from nother religion and I hated her when I saw she prays by kneel down and doing something. Anyway I thought everything is happening because of my krishna. So I want to bear her. I never ever being frustrated like this . Anyway I can’t avoid her because we both are in the same batch and also she is my classmate only known girl in this hostel. I got very angry and feel suffocated in my life. I don’t know what to do? Please ji help me to get rid of this problem and please reply fast and really very thank you for your daily post which will make me more believe in supreme personality lord krishna. Jai shree krishna. Hare krishna Hare krishna krishna krishna Hare Hare Hare Rama Hare Rama Rama Rama Hare Hare.
What you feel is too bad.
You can’t expect all the surroundings to be the devotees. We have to practice devotion even from the fire.
During my initial days in ISKCON, a senior devotee requested us to chant for him since he likes to buy a car and is arranging money. I asked him why he likes to buy a car since he is financially weak. He simply replied that while travelling by bus, he has to hear cinema songs in the speaker kept in the bus that disturbs his devotional mood and makes the mind materialistic. Therefore, he likes to buy a car to chant or think of Krishna while travelling.
We too chanted for him innocently. Then, he bought a car. He started to use that car even for going to nearby areas that can be reached even by walking. His monthly budget shot up for petrol, maintenance, etc.
One day, he, who was telling us that he had decided to take direct sanyasi after 10 years, suddenly fell in the love of a girl and then married her.
This was the effect of his buying a car for his silent practice of devotion. He bought the car to follow brahmacharya better, but, fell in love though he had a car.
The point is, if you have sincerity and dedication, you can practice devotion even amidst fire. If you always worry for the surroundings and other excuses, you can not practice devotion even if you go to a forest.
In your hostel, you have a friend from Christianity. Actually, most of the practices of both the religions are unique. Their messenger is also very satvic and merciful. We follow picture and deity worship. They do not follow that. They too insist in chanting, diksha, etc in their own way of recommendations.
However, the target of both is the same. Pleasing the God. She is not an atheist, but, a believer of Jesus Christ.
All the issues come in the family and the society ONLY BECAUSE OF IDENTITIES. I am Hindu; I am Christian; I am Muslim. I am a Saivaite; I am a Vaishnava; I am a madhwa; I am a Buddhist; I am Brahmin, like that.
By claiming to belong to a SECTION OF SOCIETY AS A BRAND IDENTITY, he develops a kind of hatred against other sects, groups and religions.
Only after seeing this much of differences among the people based on religion, race, etc, some reformers like J.Krishna murthy, Buddha, etc had to oppose such old systems of practice.
I think, all of you know a popular reformist PERIYAR E.V.RAMASAMY from Tamil Nadu who opposed and preached against dividing the people based on god, religion, caste, etc., and he fought hard to eradicate the social discrepancies. He also preached atheistic concepts vigorously.
One day, he was giving a speech in a public meeting. Three persons stood up from the audience. Out of three, one was a hindu, one was a Christian and one was a muslim.
All the three asked Sri Ramasamy why he is preaching that there is no god.
Sri E.V.Ramasamy smiled and said in the mike:
“I am speaking what all the three of you are doing. You too are behaving like an atheist. You, a hindu, deny the gods Jesus and Allah; You, a Christian, deny the gods of Hindu and muslim; You, a muslim deny the gods of hindus and Christians. Thus, all three of you are denying the existence of the gods of other religions. So, all the people of all the religions are also atheists! Do you understand?”
Wow……What a wonderful attack? I fully agree with the views of that reformist. Though it looked like denying the God, he always condemned the atrocities happening in the name of god, not the god himself.
In this way, all of us are behaving like atheists. We have no rights to condemn the atheists because we too have such qualities.
By denying other gods, we become a follower of one god and refuser of other gods. This too is an atheistic mindset.
Let us come out of such cheap way of respecting one god and getting irritated to see the followers of other gods.
I too discourage such a mindset existing among the devotees.
Let Krishna be the Supreme Personality of Godhead. But, why should we hate other gods and their followers?
Since your father is the head of family, will you hate your uncle and aunty?
This is not a matured approach. Be dedicated to Krishna. But, do not speak others cheaply.
What fault do you find when she kneels down and prays to Jesus or any other gods? She is following the custom IMPOSED ON HER by her parents. We should praise her for her dedication in her path. We should not get irritated.
Why these nonsense?
Let her follow her god in her own way. You worship Krishna by keeping His picture in a small shelf or box. Chanting can be done even from the hostel veranda or garden or open terrace.
Aren’t there ways to manage?
Thousands of ways are there.
Help her to worship her god in her own way by being calm and chanting silently or in a mild voice. By seeing your cooperative and matured approach, she should appreciate the devotees of Krishna.
Please think with broad mind and see the followers of other religions and paths without hatred. All are the souls. These nonsense identities are man made for their own convenience and to satisfy their ego.
I am going to announce my clear decision against these nonsense identities in near future that is going to be my manthra and baseline of my way of devotion. And, I will follow that only in future.
A soul is pure until it takes a body and it has no identity. These identities are man made to satisfy his nonsense ego. Always remember that.