Is it possible for me to meet Krishna and approach Him like a Gopi?
A girl devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Hare krishna anna -^- anna becaz of u, today i know krishna..all credit goes to u anna.. i dnt knw how or wat to say .. if its wrong plz forgive me .. i love krishna sooo much.. krishna is not a part of my life.. krishna is my life.. i cant express or show how much i love him.. anna always i feel of seeing krishna and to hug him tight and to fall on his lotus feet.. but it is not possible in real .. i hug krishna idol and photo tightly.. but cant satisfy.. tear drops out when i realise its not possible to meet him.. i knw anna in evrythng and evry where is krishna.. evrythng is created by him.. in every idol he is thr.. but i want to see him in his roopa.. becoming mad and sad.. anna it may be too much pleasure and desire of mine plz forgive me.. just i am sharing wid u.. and begging you for the guidence to overcome from this .. my problem is , i want to see krishna but i cant i knw.. always i cry nd beg in front of him to give darshan..wat shall i do anna ..anna its all becaz of u.. u have taught all of us to love krishna .. your admiration abt him made me to love him soooo much today.. you are a greatest devotee.. we are lucky to have you in our lives.. priceless wrk you are doing anna.. really u r greattttt.. hare krishna -^-“
You have developed Gopi bhawa.
I appreciate your love on Krishna. Your desire to meet Krishna and approach Him like a Gopi is genuine. But, it can not be fully implemented as it is like gopis in this kali yuga because of the present conditions.
Gopis had families and they had no problems for food and shelter. Their parents or husbands took care of them. Those days, the women had no compulsion to go for jobs and all of them were free.
What happens now a days?
Both women and men compete in going to jobs and earning.
In many families, both the wife and husband go for job and earn.
Though many wives remain as housewives, their husbands will not allow their wives to go deep in devotion.
Though the husband happens to be a devotee, he too has to earn to manage his family. So, he too will restrict his wife to a certain level of expression of Krishna Prema.
Though you remain unmarried, you too should arrange for your food and shelter. Now, your parents will support. How long can they support?
So, In this planet and in this kaliyuga, we have to follow the Krishna Prema while taking care of ourselves.
Who will feed you if you are always sitting in Krishna Prema?
Can you survive without food more than 10 days?
In case you like to die without food for Krishna, has Krishna advised us to die by quitting food for him?
Krishna has advised us to perform our naturally assigned duties, earn and manage ourselves.
He never advised us to remain without working just thinking of Him.
You may say that you will stay in any sathsangha, have prasadam and live.
But, no sathsangha will feed you without doing any service to Krishna. You will have to cook, clean, collect funds, etc. Moreover, no sathsangha can keep more devotees inside. They too have limitations of space, funds, etc. And, the scriptures and acharyas like Sri Ramanuja, Srila Prabhupada etc., did not recommend keeping women in the mutts. Because they are the places of brahmacharis and sanyasis.
So, a small number of male devotees alone can stay in sathsanghas/ mutts.
So, in any angle of consideration, one thing is clear:
A devotee has to do some works while following devotion to Krishna.
He needs a family to clean him/ her when he/ she is old.
Though the family happens to be torturous, they will atleast admit you in an old age home.
If you skip job, earning, marriage, people, etc, etc, and remain in the Prema of Krishna, you will die within a month.
So, be practical.
Develop Krishna Prema and also do something to take care of yourself.
Krishna will approve such a way of devotion because you are not remaining a burden to anyone in this world to show yourself as a devotee.
A Krishna devotee should act in such a way that others do not consider him/ her as burden for them.
The problem is, when you involve in devotion, you may gradually lose interest in earning and mingling with the materialistic people.
But, you have no other way. Like a rose blossoms amidst the mud, we too have to follow devotion from this contaminated atmosphere only.
The devotional practices are different for every yuga.
For this kaliyuga, even our own living will be difficult and we will have to spend enormous time to work, earn and take care of ourselves.
So, we have little time for proper devotional practices.
That is why,, the scriptures and acharyas mercifully recommended chanting the holy names of Krishna as the sadhana for kaliyuga to get Krishna.
So, Chant the sweet names of Krishna as much as possible.
Work and take care of yourself.
Do your duties for your family.
Finish your family duties in your fifties or sixties.
Now, you will have completed your duties for your children and you will be living in your son/ daughter’s home.
You will be at rest now.
No works except devotion because you have developed your children as earning members. So, he/she/they will earn and spend for you. Or, you would have saved for your last days that you can use.
Now, think of Krishna all the time and go from temple to temple, tour from place to place, hear lectures throughout the day, etc etc.
Do whatever you want.
Now, get ready for today’s work after chanting the committed rounds.
Work. Think of Krishna in the available gaps.
Come back from work.
Do family duties. Also some seva to Krishna at home.
Chant a round at night.
Go to bed thinking of Krishna.
That’s all you can do now.
Follow that. Krishna will like you more than liking a sanyasi.
After going back to Krishna’s kingdom, meet Krishna and approach Him like a Gopi