How Loving a Person affects Loving Krishna if Krishna is Powerful?
A Girl devotee who requested anonymity, asked like this:
Hare Krishna.. Please don’t reveal my name. I work in …………………. away from my house in another town. By Krishna’s grace i have everything in life to be happy, however i don’t have peace of mind.
I used to worship Krishna everyday when i was at my home, but now i am not able to. I love a boy and he loves me too. Sometimes he doesn’t treat me right and i keep thinking about it. I can’t take away my mind from him. I don’t have much friends here because i madly followed him and forgot how to make friends, talk to people, maintain relations with others. I want peace of mind, i want to worship Krishna like before. Please help me with advice. Thank you..”
REPLY:
Just because Loving a Person affects Loving Krishna, it does not mean Krishna is not Powerful.
Sometimes Sunlight is hidden by the clouds.
Sun is there with the same power. But, clouds just hide the rays of Sun.
Mirror is always ready to reflect our face.
But, if dusts get deposited on it, they hide our face temporarily.
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Similarly, for the people, Krishna will always be present to be assessed.
But, when the contamination of materially attached love stands between us and Krishna, we forget Krishna temporarily.
This is the problem for many. These are maya’s activities.
Whatever is not related to the Lord is called the acts and tricks of maya. If a devotee is very strong in his devotion, maya can’t shake him/ her. But, if that devotee has one leg in the material things and another leg in the service of Krishna, maya’s disturbances will not come down. Because, she knows that you are oscillating and hence it is easy to pull you from Krishna. So, she sent that boy to you and as expected by her, you have started to give importance for that boy than Krishna.
Maya’s other tricks will be giving disappointments and problems to divert our attention from Krishna. But, all these tricks will be only in the case of those who are oscillating between Krishna and material attachments and who do not have strong involvement in the devotional practices and do not maintain strong love for Krishna.
Actually, I do not like to comment about loving a boy or girl. Because, I know that it is a natural feeling in teen age and twenties and all love can not be branded as irresponsible acts. There are some natural affairs between two responsible youth who behave very decently and responsibly. Love is natural. If we find someone safe and qualified to be associated with, and if love comes with that person, it is natural one.
But, Love should not be misused for going out and doing all the nasty things. They should immediately inform their parents and start to do the arrangements for marriage. At any stage, violations should not be allowed among the couples before marriage.
As far as the devotees are concerned, they should always remain in the spiritual platform. A devotee will mingle with so many people. But, he will not allow his mind in falling in love. He will love Krishna only. If Krishna brings any good girl for him naturally, he accepts that girl and marry to serve the lord together with that girl.
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So, even the love should be for devotional purpose, i.e., to serve Krishna. Human love is for this body and mind. So, it is the material love that are subject to karma.
Whereas, love with Krishna is between the soul and Supersoul. So, when we love Krishna, if Krishna wants us to marry, He will connect you with a devotee boy whom you can marry and do services. So, a devotee accepts a wife/ husband to continue his/her service to the lord still better. He does not marry for bodily reasons alone. Of course, the same marriage relations can be used to control the senses also when the senses disturb the devotee without allowing him to perform the devotional practices better.
Why I am writing these things to you? just to explain how Loving a Person affects Loving Krishna though Krishna is Powerful.
(1) If you love that boy for your material happiness and enjoyments, you forget Krishna when you love him. Krishna still exists, but is screened by the material attachment with another person.
(2) If you love that boy for serving the Lord together, whenever you see that boy, you remember Krishna. How? “Oh, if this devotee becomes my husband , I can serve Krishna still better. If he is truly fit for that purpose, let Krishna unites him with me”. This is the right thinking. So, whenever you see or hear or think of that boy, you remember about serving Lord.
Now, from your message, I can understand that you seem to love that boy more for you, less for Krishna. So, whenever you think of or see him, you forget Krishna. So, please do not scold me, I like to tell you that there must be some selfish reasons in your love with that boy. If you like to marry that boy for doing service to the Lord together, you won’t have forgotten Krishna when you think of him.
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I think that you are aware of Ramakrishna Paramahamsa. We need not go into the nature of his preaching, mayavada, etc., as there may be differences in the views. But, He married and treated his wife like a mother. He never had any selfish motive in his accepting a wife. Though they remained inside a room, they remained unattached and their marriage is not for physical relations. He married her for doing spiritual service.
Even in the ISKCON Sathsangha, there are hundreds of couples who nicely serve the Lord together.
So, a devotee should select a girl/ boy for serving the Lord together. Additional benefit in marriage will be that they can have relations when their senses do not allow them to perform the devotional practices. After that, they can concentrate in devotional practices in full swing again, single mindedly without the disturbance of senses.
Keep all these points in mind. Speak to him about the Lord and serving the Lord together. Make up his mind for that. If you marry him for primarily for satisfying your senses, you can not perform service to the Lord effectively after marriage and you may forget Krishna.
Now, think of your preferences in life. Which one you prefer in life? A happy life with pleasures with husband? Or, a Krishna Conscious life with husband?
If you decide your preferences between these both, and if you like to marry him to perform service to the Lord better, you will never forget Krishna in your life.
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The Point is that Krishna is always Powerful. When we think more about sense gratification, our material thoughts just hide Krishna. When we come out of our attachments and again think of serving Krishna, Krishna is visible for us again.
Hope you are now clear about how Loving a Person affects Loving Krishna.