Why Krishna performed Lilas with Married Gopis also?
A woman has no barriers to develop Prema for Krishna though she is a married woman.
Yes, as far as the marriage is concerned, THERE IS NO BARRIER TO MARRY THOUGH A DEVOTEE LOVES KRISHNA LIKE A GOPI.
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Even many Gopis were married girls. They involved in lilas with Krishna and were always thinking of Krishna though they were living with their husbands.
KRISHNA’s LILAS WITH MARRIED GOPIS CAN BE RIGHTLY UNDERSTOOD ONLY BY THE DEVOTEES WHO HAVE UNDERSTOOD THE POSITION OF KRISHNA AND GOPIS.
There is a version of explanation that THE GOPIS WERE JIVATMAS (souls) AND KRISHNA IS THE PARAMATHMA (Supersoul (or) Master of Souls (or) Source of Souls). THE GOPIS-KRISHNA UNION IS CONSIDERED AS THE NATURAL UNION OF JIVATHMAS WITH THE PARAMATHMA.
This means, THE BODIES MAY HAVE HUSBANDS. IT IS NOT AN ISSUE OR BARRIER FOR A SOUL TO LOVE THE SUPERSOUL KRISHNA.
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Also remember that Only Krishna is the Purusha and all the people, males and females are the females in front of Krishna. In Other words, Krishna is the Enjoyer and the souls are to be enjoyed. Souls have no gender of male or female. All are enjoyable and hence all are females in front of Krishna.
Every married girl/ woman can love Krishna as a bodily wife of a man. If anyone says that only the unmarried girl can love Krishna, no married girl can love Krishna. This is baseless.
Marry a devotee boy after carefully selecting. Love him as the one sent by Krishna for you to practice devotion together. However, no two souls can unite. Therefore, a husband and wife can not be soul-mates. A soul can unite with supersoul only.
This life as grahastha is just a medium/ platform from which one takes steps to get the mercy of Krishna. No more importance for the ashrams such as brahmacharya, grahastha, vanaprastha and sanyasa. It is the material platform of our life. That’s all. Only if you follow devotion to Krishna as a brahmachari, grahastha, Vanaprastha or sanyasi, that means, you are on the right process of Varnashrama dharma.
The purpose of Varnashrama dharma is to elevate you in the service to Krishna. Every ashrama has its merits and demerits. A grahastha can behave like a sanyasi even in his family life if he serves the Lord together.
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If you have any hatred in marriage life, you may decide not to marry until you set your mind FAVOURABLE TO MARRIAGE. If not, the marriage is not barrier for loving Krishna, and hence, you can marry a devotee boy and love Krishna.
Though we are not that much elevated like the Gopis, we too can love and serve Krishna like Gopis if we follow the grahastha ashrama.
Again I remind:
The Spouse is our Bodily Relationship. Krishna is our Soulful relationship.
So, Krishna’s lilas with married Gopis should be seen as the relationship of the souls with their Supersoul.
(WHO ARE GOPIS? HOW DID THEY GET KRISHNA? – COMPLETE DETAILS! READ HERE!)