Being Sensitive and Getting irritated after coming to devotion! Tips!
Two Similar Questions:
(1) A woman devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Myself ……… I have been going through Anxiety & Unusual Thoughts since last 3-4 moths. Chanting bt I still Feel the same problem is dere although i have recovered from it with 80-85%, & Did Some Astrological Remedies n do chant hare krishna n made a control on myself. I am ……..n belong to well settled family. I still feel little bit of those unusual thoughts r striking sometimes n start thinking that all that happenings of the past should not come back, whenever something happens bad, i start fearing it for future that it should not happen again, bti try not to get stuck wid these thoughts. I m a very cleanliness conscious person n dont like untidy home bt if my maids don’t do it properly, i dont scold them bti just tell them to do that left over part which sometimes they don’t like. In fact I get dreams of the maids once or twice a week. One of my ……… has spelled a black magic on me since last 10-11 yrs & she is still doing, although things r nt working for a we did remedies for it bt is there any permanent solution d for it . I want to overcome this little bit left over negativity very soon & get married. My Date and time of Birth is…………Please help me as soon as possible.”
(2) “how do i control my temper i got irritated soon plz do help me ….. I tried a lot to overcome from this but in vain……..”
REPLY:
The cause for all your fears is your lack of confidence and over-attachments with the results.
Being Sensitive and Getting irritated, you take every happening in your life very seriously. You are disturbed by the activities of others. You also expect perfection.
In brief, you act very sensitively. This is the problem for you.
(DEVOTEES GETTING IRRITATED SOME TIMES! HOW TO AVOID IT? READ HERE!)
Actually, if you expect perfection from others, you will get disappointed most of the times. Because, no one in this world is perfect including you and me. If you review your past, you can identify many faults on your side. Everyone of us are getting shaped through experience only. Basically, everyone of us are making mistakes.
So, don’t expect others to be perfect and accept every person ALONG WITH HIS / HER NEGATIVES. Consider that it is natural in any society/ family/ group/ forum. Everyone is living in this world only by compromising with the nature of others. No other way also.
Even in Krishna Consciousness, we have to give up our ego for Krishna while going for preaching because, we will be treated in different manner by different people. If we take everything seriously, we can never preach for Krishna.
Similarly, if you look everything sensitively, you can not have a comfortable living in this society.
So, LEARN TO ACCEPT OTHERS ALONG WITH THEIR NEGATIVES.
(Is devotees being short tempered a sign of lack of Krishna Consciousness? READ HERE!)
Then, you have written about chanting. If you SINCERELY Chant and also follow the four regulative principles (No meat, No Intoxication, No Gambling and No Illicit Relations), you will never be affected by such black magic, ghosts, etc. Black magic and ghosts affect ONLY THE MEAT EATING MATERIALISTIC PEOPLE AND WHO ARE UNCLEAN. NO DEDICATED KRISHNA DEVOTEE WHO FOLLOWS FOUR REGULATIVE PRINCIPLES SINCERELY WILL BE AFFECTED BY BLACK MAGIC AND GHOSTS.
So, associate with the devotees of Krishna. Visit your nearest temple and get the advice of the devotees there. SERIOUSLY CHANT 16 ROUNDS DAILY. Perform aratis to Krishna and offer bhoga to Him and honour only Prasadam. Start loving Krishna from the bottom of your heart.
Dedicate your life for Krishna and do your material works just as a duty without attachments.
Till your marriage, come up in Krishna Consciousness and consult the local ISKCON temple president/manager for right groom for you, giving clear details about you, your devotional standing and your horoscope.
This is the only solution for you.
(How to avoid being Sensitive to failures and issues of life? READ HERE!)
BEING SENSITIVE AND GETTING IRRITATED:
(i) Krishna says that the attachments followed by desire is the cause for the irritation.
When we develop desires (lust) but we do not get them, we get anger out of irritation. Krishna says how anger (irritation) comes from attachments in Chanpter-2 of Bhagavad Gita.
BHAGAVAD GITA Ch-2, Text 62 -63 says: “While contemplating the objects of the senses, a person develops attachment for them, and from such attachment lust develops, and from lust anger arises.
From anger, delusion arises, and from delusion bewilderment of memory. When the memory is bewildered, intelligence is lost, and when intelligence is lost, one falls down again into the material pool.”
Krishna gives the solution in the next sloka itself:
TEXT-64: One who can control his senses by practicing the regulative principles of freedom can obtain the complete mercy of the Lord and thus become free from all attachment and aversion.”
So, to avoid irritation and temper, as Krishna said, Give up attachments, Control your senses by practising the regulative principles of life. Take satvik foods after offering to Krishna as Prasadam, Chant regularly, etc.
Most importantly, trust that everything happens for a good reason as fixed by the karma network and nothing is in your hands.
So, you will not prefer being Sensitive and getting irritated for everything.
(How to face if Others are kidding your Krishna Bhakti Practices? READ HERE!)