What if chanting Hare Krishna reminds a lover Krishna for a girl?
A Girl devotee who requested anonymity asked like this:
“Hare Krishna…Well and please please please whenever you reply my questions never use my name in your answer its my request… My question is that ” I love a boy since ……. but he never loved me. I am waiting for him since ……. and i still didn’t get him. I am trying to forget him but i can’t forget him for a moment . The main problem is that his name is “Krishna”. and how i forget him? whenever i chant hare Krishna i cry because of his name. What should i do? Please tell me how can I forget Krishna? I know he is not lord Krishna, but Lord Krishna reminds me that Krishna! Please reply and don’t show my name in reply!!! Hare Krishna”
REPLY:
I do not know why some girls and boys are this much foolish! What nonsense this is!
A boy does not love you, but, you are loving him for the past 10 years.
10 years mean, you are wasting a sizable part of your life. In other words, you are spoiling yourself for a boy who does not care you for the past 10 years.
(Giving up selfish Love and following selfless love for Krishna! Tips! READ HERE!)
By remaining like this, you are deceiving yourself. He is not cheating you. Why this much of attachment for you? It is very difficult to convert from this much of material attachment to Krishna consciousness. Too much of attachments. Too much.
Do you know the value of YOUTH? Are you aware that you are wasting your life?
Are you thinking that all other boys in this world are just dolls, not boys? Is that boy alone fit for you in this world? Aren’t the other boys qualified to marry you?
I think that LOVE is the major factor that binds one with this material world. Of course, we must love everyone in this world as all are the part and parcel of Krishna. But, we should not get attachments with them.
You are too much attached with feelings. I like to tell you that the girls should not beg for love. Love should be natural. It should not be brought by force. Even if you marry him by compelling, crying, threatening, etc., how will you bring love between you and him in the marital life? LOVE can not be brought BY FORCE in your marital life. It should come naturally.
(WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVE, MERCY AND ATTACHMENT? READ HERE!)
chanting Hare Krishna reminds a lover Krishna? Ha Ha. Actually, that boy’s name should remind Krishna!!!
Of course, the name Krishna is transcendental. This does not mean that anyone who has name as Krishna should also be transcendental. There are even thieves with the name Krishna in this world. You are telling that you remember him whenever you chant Hare Krishna. There is no use in such chanting. You must chant Hare Krishna thinking of KRISHNA, the Supreme Personality of Godhead. That is real chanting.
So, be a brilliant girl. I tell you, ALL THE BOYS ARE THE SAME. THERE IS NOTHING SPECIAL WITH ANY PARTICULAR BOY. So, do not long for a particular boy assuming that there is any special organ in his body that is made up of Gold or Platinum.
All of us are made up of flesh, stool, saliva, blood, water, etc. There is nothing inside our body. Then why this much of attachments with a particular person?
Is he speaking sweetly? Almost all people speak sweetly if they need to get anything done.
Is he beautiful? That beauty is just because of the presence of our skin. Imagine what is inside our skin! It is alarming.
Is he from a rich family? Money can not buy happiness. It binds you more and more.
He does not love you. That means, he is firm in his standing for the past 10 long years. So, if you are thinking of him, you are a mad.
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A devotee should be intelligent because Krishna says that He is our intelligence. If there is no intelligence, he/ she is not a wise devotee. So, be intelligent in life.
Think of your parents. They are waiting to see you a married girl. Since you are waiting for more than 10 years, I assume that you have crossed 25. So, marry a good boy selected by your parents and start your life. Don’t waste this precious life by FOOLISHLY thinking of that boy who is not the only one in this world.
I like to tell you that all my sisters did ARRANGED MARRIAGE only as advised by our parents/ brothers. They are leading a happy and pious grahastha life now. So, don’t think that Love marriage alone can give happiness. YOU CAN LOVE YOUR HUSBAND EVEN AFTER YOUR MARRIAGE.
Chant THINKING OF LORD KRISHNA. If you love Lord Krishna more than that boy Krishna, you will not think of that boy while chanting. So, start to love the Lord Krishna more. You can keep a beautiful photo of LORD KRISHNA and see that while chanting. This will help you to remember LORD KRISHNA while chanting. Have friendship with girls, particularly devotees. Spend more time with girl devotees and your parents. Engage yourself in reading Bhagavad Gita, Srimad Bhagavatam and other literatures. This will engage your mind in the Lord Krishna.
All these problems are because, you are weak in saadhanas. If you improve your saadhanas, everything will be alright.
Hope you are clear what to do if chanting Hare Krishna reminds a lover Krishna for a girl.
(How Loving a Person affects Loving Krishna if Krishna is Powerful? READ HERE!)