Right way of facing the death of ourselves and our kith & kin! Tips!

Right way of facing the death of ourselves and our kith & kin! Tips!

A devotee who requested anonymity asked like this:

“Hare krishna prabhu ji.i wanted to ask u why people are scared of death.  Second question.  my dad just passed away 3 months ago.  families n friends tells me dat now dat my dad is dead and he cant remember me and  he is not mine anymore  n  dat i should not think of him as it will make his journey difficult.     i keep wondering where my dad would be.    i know dis is a reality one has to accept, but i am lost without my father.  I pray to krishnaji n think of him everyday asking him to help me n he does.    please tell me is it true dat i should miss my dad..

Also help me understand dat i am wrong  in feelg  if sumone close goes out partys da very next day of  my dad goes.    pls dnt disclose my name.hare krishna———–”


Your first question:  Why people are scared of death?

Let me explain the right way of facing the death of ourselves and our kith & kin!

Only if a person has material attachments, he will fear for death because of the following reasons:

(1) He will feel for the separation of all his kith and kin. He was living with them for the past 60-70 years. He cultivated his children since their birth.  He had so many affectionate sharings with his wife.  He worries “If I die, what will  my wife do? Who will console her? Can my children be safe in this society? I was protecting them so far.  If I leave, whether they will be safe?”  like that.

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(2) He feels that he can’t control others hereafter. He is unable to give up his ego even at the time of death.  He also feels that he can never see his kith and kins hereafter.  He feels helpless as he can not extend his life time further.  So, he is watching helplessly.

(3) He also fears for pains.  Because,  he was very active when he was young. His body co-operated for all his activities.  He was running behind girls, money, posts, praises, etc.  His body co-operated for everything.  But, he has those desires even now.  But, his body does not co-operate with his desires.  He is unable to even get up from bed.  He has to pass excretions on bed itself.  He need the help of a person even to eat and he is unable to take solid foods.  Thus, he is struggling with so many inabilities.

(4) And, when the person (Soul) leaves his body, his body feels the pains of  the bites of 1000s of  scorpions.  The sample pains has started in his body.  This is the effect of taking soul through the messengers of yama . So, all these factors create pain in his body.  So, he fears for the death.

However,  if we follow Krishna Consciousness and qualify to go back to Krishna, we will be taken from this body by the messengers of Lord Krishna, not of yama.  So, we will not feel that pain and we will never take birth again in this painful material world.  So, adopt the path of Krishna Consciousness seriously to escape from pains of death.

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And, death is inevitable. We can’t extend the life by worrying or fearing.  So, we have no other way to accept the concept of death.  Since the athma has no death, a person’s body only dies, not the soul that always live.

Krishna has assured that those who dies thinking of Him will come to Him.  So, to think of Krishna at the time of death, we should practice from now itself. His thoughts can’t come suddenly at the time of death. so, we should prepare ourselves for the death thinking of Krishna from now itself.

YOUR NEXT QUESTION:  Why should NOT we think and cry for our relatives after their death?

Next, let us see the right way of facing the death of our kith & kin! Tips!

Actually, when the soul leaves the body, it takes about one earth year to reach the YAMAPURI, ie, the world of Yama.  Till that, the soul is taken by the yama’s servants using a temporary body.  So, if we think of them and cry for them, they will not travel peacefully.  And, we must allow them to settle in the world of ancestors peacefully.  Instead of crying, we have to do all the rituals meant for the deceased souls engaging brahmanas that will reduce the pains of the ancestors who are travelling to Yamapuri.  If we do the vedic rituals properly for the deceased people, the punishments for their past deeds will be reduced and they will be treated respectfully in the yamapuri.  But, if we do not do the rituals properly, but are crying for them, they do not get any relaxations and hence their punishments will not be reduced.  So, it is advised NOT TO CRY for the death.  It is in fact disturbing them.

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So, just consult a vedic brahmana and do the rituals periodically and perform tharpana (water giving ceremony) on every Amavasya.  Every year offer them Shrardha to them. These are enough.  If you donate a cow to a genuine vedic brahmana, the soul of the deceased person will get major relief from punishments.

Instead of crying, chant Hare Krishna for the deceased soul because it will bring more blessings of Krishna for him and he will have good next birth.

YOUR LAST QUESTION:  Yes.  It is not advisable to go to parties and for happy occasions till the 13th day after the death of the deceased.  The deceased soul will live in our house only for 12 days and only on 12 th day, the soul starts his journey towards Yamapuri.  So, he will be watching all our wrong activities and crying helplessly as a soul with sukshma body.  We should always be praying to the Lord for the good status of the deceased person.

Hope these replies help you with the right way of facing the death of ourselves and our kith & kin!

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Author: RAJAN

RAJAN from Tamil Nadu, India, a Life Patron and an Initiated Devotee being in ISKCON for nearly three decades, serves anonymously to avoid Prominence and crowd as an insignificant, Humble and Neutral Servant for all the devotees of Krishna! He promotes Social media forums and this blog-website as e-satsangha (e-forums) blessed with Lakhs of followers, to give Spiritual Solutions for all the Material Problems of the devotees since 2011! He writes friendly and practical tips to practice devotion (i) without hurting the followers of other paths, (ii) without affecting the personal and career life, and (iii) without the blind, superstitious and ritualistic approach! He dedicates all the glories and credits to his Guru and Krishna.

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