Can a working girl be a sincere devotee and take care of her parents?
Hare Krishna Prabhuji . Thank You for guiding everyone . There are many questions but I have no one to help me out. How to be sincere devotee? Can sincere devotee go and work to earn livelihood as am elder daughter of my parents and we dont have any brother. I want to be son of my parents and want to serve my parents. Am I wrong if am thinking in this way? Can I still be sincere devotee of Krishna? Thank You for helping me out.
I am very much worried that some devotees confuse themselves with their assigned duties and Devotion.
GOING TO THE JOB IS THE FIRST DUTY OF A PERSON. NO LIFE WITHOUT A JOB.
Why such doubts? Are you confusing yourself seeing the saffron dressed devotees? Are you thinking that only the saffron devotees are sincere and others are not? Are you thinking that job going devotees are inferior?
I like to tell all that to be a sincere devotee and to go back to Krishna, only two things are required:
(1) Detachment with material things and relations MENTALLY, not physically.
(2) Total surrender to Krishna and seeing Krishna everywhere and everything.
All the lakshanas (features) are included in these two things. The dress codes, symbols, etc are just secondary that may help us to have a conviction and dedication to follow devotion. Nothing else. Just because one appears like a sanyasi, it is not assured that he has attained mental sanyasa.
Mental sanyasa alone is important. Physical sanyasa is impossible.
Detachment with material things means, not going away from material things and relations. It is impossible. Wherever you go, you have to be with the materials only. Similarly, wherever you go, you will have to meet the opposite sex. Even if you become a sanyasi, you will have to use the materials and guide the materialistic people.
Therefore, you should be with the materials and relations, but, should not consider them as your eternal associates.
Your body should be with the materials and people. You (soul) should be situated with Krishna.
This is called material detachment and attachment with Krishna.
That is why, I have been writing everywhere that physical sanyasa is impossible in this kaliyuga. Only mental sanyasa is possible and fit for this kaliyuga.
And, it is said that the grahasthas should support and protect the sanyasis. That means, grahasthas should be there even to support the sanyasis. If you remain a grahastha and support the sanysais, you too will get all the blessings received by those sanyasis.
If job going devotees are inferior, no one can be a perfect devotee. Because, everyone is going to some jobs or doing some business.
Why that much? Even the creator Krishna is working! He is managing all His creations!
If you have mental sanyasa, you can go to any job and also remain a sincere devotee.
Being a mental sanyasi as well as a devotee is possible. Just keep the following in mind:
(i) Go to the job, but, do not develop pride and keep it in mind that the job is the blessing from Krishna.
(ii) Earn, but spend a portion of your earning for temples and suffering devotees and even to the needy persons.
(iii) Be with the people, but do not consider them as your eternal associates. They are your relations for your present body only. Only Krishna is your eternal relation because you are actually soul and Krishna is the Supersoul. This is the real relationship.
(v) Instal Krishna in your heart strongly and you should remember and see Krishna whenever you see anything and anyone. Treat that there is nothing separate from Krishna.
(vi) Do not be partial to anyone or do not ill treat anyone, since every living being is the part of Krishna. Krishna is there in them also.
(vii) The relatives in this birth is given by Krishna. Therefore, do not hate anyone. Instead, love them as the arrangement of Krishna. At the same time, do not forget that Krishna is the real relation.
(viii) Since this kaliyuga will always be giving diversions and disturbances to us, keep on chanting Hare Krishna all the time. That means, chant properly a certain rounds and after that utter the names of Krishna while performing your job. Just keep Krishna all the time in your mind.
If you develop your mindset like this and perform all the duties just like an instrument in the hands of Krishna, you can go to jobs and also be a sincere devotee.
Who said that a girl does not have the responsibility to protect her parents? If there is no son, she has to take care of them. Noting wrong in that. When you get married, discuss with your “would be” that you have the responsibility of taking care of your parents and hence keep your parents in a house next or near to your house and take care of them.
All the best.