Is a man or woman being unmarried & single for ever sinful?
A woman devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
Sir I am 47 years old female. I decided to remain single after 2 affairs which didn’t end up in good note. Because if i decide to marry i need to let my would be husband to know my past and i don’t want to build a relation on false base or information. Is it a sin to stay single in life?
REPLY:
A man or woman being unmarried & single for ever sinful ONLY IF he/ she wastes this life with materialistic violations.
Only if we think or act to disturb/ affect others in any manner, it is sinful.
See, everything is happening as per our karma. As I have said many times in my posts, WE CAN POSTPONE OUR KARMIC REACTIONS TO THE NEXT BIRTH ONCE or TWICE.
(Is avoiding marriage to serve Krishna and parents right? READ HERE!)
For example, if you have the torture through wife and you find this out through the horoscope and hence you decide to avoid marriage, you are postponing the reactions of marriage and the torture to the next birth.
That means, YOU WILL DEFINITELY HAVE ANOTHER BIRTH TO MARRY AND FACE THE TORTURE OF SPOUSE.
However, karma network will allow you to postpone to the next birth only once or twice. Not for ever.
If you postpone the marriage in this birth, you will be given the next birth in which you will face a situation that forces you to marry.
If you again avoid the marriage, the karma network gives you another birth with very severe situation of not allowing you to avoid marriage. For example, You may be subjected to violations with a girl/ boy and You may be caught by the police and they themselves may conduct your marriage with a girl/ boy whom you spoiled/ cheated.
Thus, the karma can be postponed only once or twice and the karma network will force the marriage more severely in every birth.
Until you marry and face the tortures, the karma network will not leave you.
(IMPACT OF MARRIAGE & CHILD BIRTH IN LIFE BASED ON KARMA! READ HERE!)
So, the scriptures’ advice is to go with the naturally occurring incidents in our life. Let us not try to forcibly postpone anything.
Try for marriage. If it happens, good. If not, take it as your karma of NO MARRIAGE in this birth.
The karma will be postponed only if you willfully avoid marriage.
So, everyone should attempt to marry. If marriage happens, lead a good life with devotion. If the marriage does not happen even after many attempts, just skip it.
If you decide to remain as single, you should lead a life with devotion.
That is, if you are not given chance to live for your family, that means, you have been chosen to live for God.
If you live for God, i.e, Krishna, your karmic reactions are moderated.
If you do not lead a devotional life and serve the devotees and people, your karma on marriage will be very severe in your next birth.
(GUIDE FOR DEVOTEES: CAN GIRLS AVOID MARRIAGE AND STAY IN THE TEMPLES? A TEST FOR YOU! READ HERE!)
In case you seriously follow the devotional practices and also develop a detached mind towards materials and develop the genuine Prema for Krishna, you will be given total clearance from all your past karma.
But, you should complete the difficult process of material detachment and spiritual attachment with Krishna.
This is the only way to escape from the karma by stopping all the reactions with this birth itself.
Material detachment and Spiritual attachment to Krishna may be easy to type and read. But, it is a really difficult process, but, it is achievable for everyone if he has full faith on Krishna and if he takes efforts towards his goal.
But, it is not correct that a man or woman being unmarried & single for ever sinful, that I can write even hundreds of times. It is his karma to remain unmarried & single.
If you have the karma for marriage, the marriage will happen by any means.
Hope you are clear now.
(GUIDE FOR DEVOTEES: WHO SHOULD AVOID MARRIAGE? WHY OTHERS SHOULD MARRY? READ HERE!)