Same Gender or Co-ed School – Where to admit children of devotees?
A Woman devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Hare Krishna Prabhuji, Dandawat Pranam, I am a bit confused. I have a 4.5 year old girl child. We have put her in a co-ed school whereas my husband and me had studied in an exclusively same gender school. Have been getting mixed feedback on this stating it’s positives and also the downsides. What do scriptures have to say on this, especially in today’s world , taking into consideration my daughter’s life in future, what kind of school would be suitable for her? Kindly enlighten me on this. Hare Krishna.”
REPLY:
Before going into the choice of the school, Let us first keep these basic facts in mind:
(i) All the incidents that are going to happen in our life are pre-determined.
(ii) Our mind will think in such a way that those pre-planned incidents are implemented thru our actions.
(iii) Only if we develop good devotees association, we can think differently and hence escape from karma.
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Now, Let us come to your question:
Whether your daughter will get disturbance from males or get a good male association have been recorded in her horoscope.
After analyzing that aspect with a good astrologer, you can determine to what level you can give freedom to her.
In my astro advices, I suggest the parents to admit their girl children only in the Same gender school if their horoscopes indicate some disturbances from males and the girls’ mind control is less.
So, as an astrologer, I would suggest the parents to choose either girls only school or co-ed school after analyzing the horoscope of the child to a good astrologer.
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Now, Let us see the general advice:
It is always safe to admit in the same gender school for girls after her Class 5.
She can study in the co-ed school up to her class-5, ie, elementary studies.
When the girl goes to the 6th standard, you may change her to the Girls only school.
Between Class-6 and Class-12, she can study in the Girls only school.
And it is advisable for the Girl School students to study in the same city where they are living.
If the school is available in the same city, she can study there.
After her age 18, she may get some maturity to filter the boys according to their approach.
So, during the college studies she may have no or less choices to study in the same gender colleges.
So, She can do college studies in co-ed colleges.
See, all the above suggestions will be applicable only if there are same gender schools available in your city.
If only the co-ed school is available in your city, but Girls only school is available only in the nearby city, which one to choose?
Co-ed school in your city.
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Because, your child will always be near you in the same city. So, you can address her needs better.
The point is that atleast till the age of 18, let her study in the same city in the same gender school if available, or in the co-ed school in the same city if only co-ed schools are available.
Even before this age 18, elementary school studies can be done in co-ed school
The supporters of co-ed schools say that the girls and boys can learn how to behave with the persons of opposite gender if they study together in the co-ed schools.
The supporters of same gender schools say that the girls and boys should study separately till completion of school because they will be under adolescent age that does not know which is safe and which is not.
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So, though the first point also has some logic, the second point seems safer than the first one when we compare both in terms of safety for girls.
So, admit in same gender school if such a school is available in your city.
If such a school is not available, admit in the co-ed school and have close follow up.
Also read the posts given in the links given in this post that may help to protect your children..
Wherever she/ he studies, give her good interest and exposure to Krishna Consciousness along with the school studies.
Teach the children in following the regulative principles and the need to lead a disciplined life.
Give higher taste of Krishna Consciousness that will make her not interested in getting the lower tastes.
Thus you can raise your children as safely as possible.
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