Being unaffected by Negative Minded People! Tips for the devotees!
A Girl devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:.
(Hare krishna Prabhuji. Please tell me how to deal with a negative person who keeps taunting you and your family members on pity issues on regular basis. How to balance your devotional life and personal life and career in such a severe negative environment where someone (family member), is always waiting to hurt you. I get affected with her taunts now and it has started affecting me in a negative way like less concentration while chanting or listening to bhajans. I cant replace human beings from my surroundings but plz let me know how can i get least affected and stay happy in my own practice of krishna consciousness.”
REPLY:
We can’t escape from such persons.
We can’t make them non existing.
One such person will be there in every family.
They are our teachers teaching how to cultivate patience in life.
(CAITANYA’s BOLD ADVICE FOR BALANCING DEVOTION & FAMILY! READ HERE!)
Kunti prayed for problems to Krishna because it takes us close to Him.
I too pray to Krishna when I face any problem:
“Krishna, I am facing this issue with your support. Hope I can face it successfully. Please give me strength to face my karma”
If five relatives support us, one may act against us.
This is the nature of material relationships.
We are facing the reactions of our past acts in our previous births.
Good and bad incidents do not come through others; They are the outcome of our past acts only.
Why should you take her torture to your mind?
If she says something in an irritating manner, just smile and go. Let her keep saying. If you get affected by her words/ acts, it will be her success; If you neglect her words/acts, it is her failure.
If you react, it may make the situation worse.
If you like to be free, you may have to break the family and go alone with husband.
(Managing all Devotional Practices though the family cooperation is less! Tips! READ HERE!)
Separate nuclear life may give many different issues. After child birth, you may need the same relatives. A woman needs the support of her relatives till her child grows.
So, if you neglect her acts, you can atleast avoid the negative feeling of the break of her relations. After break up, it may make you guilty as she may campaign against you among the relatives.
It may increase the issue.
So, for your goodness and future, leave these matters as least important in life.
Why should you allow these issues to affect your chanting and devotion?
When we give much importance for these negativities, we too will become negative minded persons. So, we should forcibly insulate ourselves from those thoughts by not allowing her acts reach and affect our mind. We should do this for our own protection.
(Family Problems and Depression demotivating the devotees! Solutions! READ HERE!)
Why should we allow others to affect our life?
Just neglect their acts and words. Do your duties in your own way.
If you lose the peace given by the devotion, your feeling of getting tortured may increase.
So, never reduce your interest in the prayers and sadhanas that will make you have helpless feeling.
Krishna is the only asylum for all of us. He is teaching you through the people.
So, See her as your teacher who teaches facing different types of people in life.
Krishna is your eternal friend. Hold Him. Leave these matters that are never going to help you in life.
Don’t waste your time and energy worrying for these unavoidable things.
When good time comes, such tortures will automatically vanish.
Time is very powerful that changes everything.
Be hopeful. Chant extra during these situations.
Hope these tips for Being unaffected by Negative Minded People will be helpful to you.
(Why should the devotees forgive though someone insults them? READ HERE!)