How to overcome the tendency to commit Physical violations?
A male devotee (Name hidden) asked like this:
“Hare krsna! How to control sex desire as an unmarried 26 years old boy want physical relation? Once I went to a c…l girl for experience first time, but what happened I don’t know, I came back from the door step itself bcz I thought it is wrong. But desire comes many times to kiss, hug and even to have s…x. Please advice what shall I do. When I can’t control, I watch such bad movies.”
REPLY:
This is the result of not having full engagement throughout the day.
If a person keeps himself busy for most of the time, he will forget even taking food.
Thoughts of having pleasures won’t come.
(VIOLATIONS BETWEEN GIRLS AND BOYS – HOW TO AVOID IT? READ HERE!)
Particularly, if a person keeps him busy with devotional practices, such thoughts won’t arise.
This is the experience of so many devotees.
Most of the people have sense disturbances. It is natural.
But, most of those people do not go to such girls for pleasures.
They engage themselves in productive acts and forget these sense related things.
During the Indian Independence struggle, many freedom fighters and leaders were jailed for many years in Andaman and other jails. They had wives and children. But they remained in jails for many years sacrificing these nonsense pleasures and good food.
How?
Because their goal is high that had filled their thoughts.
(Is following devotion & also having sexual addictions wrong? READ HERE!)
Our Security personnel are protecting our country and the people by being at the borders even without good shelter and good food withstanding severe cold or hot climates.
Are they thinking of pleasures?
Why?
Because they had a big goal that had filled their thoughts.
Thus, one will not have remarkable sense disturbances of he is busy in any productive or spiritual engagement.
Only the idle mind is devil’s workshop.
Idle means, having more free time also.
In your case, you seem to have some free time.
(Using intoxicants or other Violations while chanting – Will Krishna accept? RED HERE!)
And, you seem to be not sound in sadhanas, ie, devotional practices.
That is why, you have too much of sense disturbances and you have dared to go to a s…x worker.
However, because of the good culture you have come from, you returned without violating.
What can you do now?
No such character changes can be mde miraculously within aa few days. It is a consistent process to be followed atleast for six moths. Then, it will become your daily practice throughlou your life.
TAKE THESE EIGHT STEPS:
(i) Since you are 26 now, marry by choosing a girl from good sources immediately;
(ii) Start Chanting Hare Krishna 16 rounds a day sincerely. This will greatly protect you from disturbances.
(iii) Engage your available time reading the literatures about Krishna such as Bhagavad Gita, Srimad Bhagavatam, etc.
(Why the devotees should avoid offenses strictly? READ HERE!)
(iv) Most importantly, take only Krishna prasaadam prepared using satvik vegetables and grains and avoiding onion, garlic, meat, etc.
(v) Avoid taking any types of foods that are not offered to Krishna. Avoid spices as far as possible oir take permissible spices in less qualtities.
(vi) Stop watching adult contents, reading romantic novels, watching movies and television serials and mingling with materialistic persons more except for essential needs and avoiding talking unnecessarily with the women.
(vii) Always be busy in job and devotional practices.
(viii) Start spending more time with the devotees by visiting the temples frequently and regularly.
Thus these EIGHT initiatives – Chanting, Reading, Prasadam, Satsangha and marriage will calm down your senses from excessive agitations.
This is sure. All EIGHT should be followed at the same time and even a single practice should not be avoided.
Since marriage involves some time, OTHER SEVEN practices should be immediatey started and sincere steps should be taken for Marriage earlier.
Just follow the above EIGHT STEPS for six months and write to me. You will find more changes in your life and your senses will come uunder your control.
This is proven and recommended by all acharyas.
Try and tell me. Best of luck.
(Why the devotees should avoid offenses strictly? READ HERE!)