Is accusing that Krishna does not clear our Struggles wrong?
ACTUAL QUESTION FROM A GIRL DEVOTEE:
“Hare krishna prabhuji danvat pranam… Prabhuji I read your every counselling. All are very nice… Prabhuji am devotee of krishna I do 16 round daily., Read bhagwat geeta, Bhagwatam, n some other shirla prabhupada books, fallow four principles. My father every day prays krishna but in hurry, without giving time to worship.. My father is doing simple work he is tailor… My mother n father sacrifice all things for me n my others siblings.. Still sacrifice many things.. They educate me very well now am engineer doing job.
Prabhuji I want to become a successful software engineer but right now am doing job in sales because of money.. Am doing preparations for software field but I have shortest time because from morning to evening till 8 pm my sales job.. After that am too much tried.. All time I pray to krishna plss help me but am disappointed.. I do more work but results not come..even for my marriage many troubles come.. If any relation cme for me so they first see what my father do… N like this all relation is cancel because my father have no good job am belong to Middle class that’s why… Even am manglik girl also my parents are too much worrying about me. n I don’t seen like this my parents. Am living away from my home because of job I want to earn money to fulfill my parents need….. They hide me many difficult things because am away from them.. My mother has blind faith n trust on krishna but now am losing my faith on krishna. I all tym crying in front of krishna. Plss prabhuji I never said this all things to anyone except krishna.. Now am telling to you.. Please advice me what I have to do.. Hare Krishna”
REPLY:
Your message shows that you belong to a good family where your and your parents’ aspirations have not been fulfilled as expected.
All the expectations we have need not be fulfilled because whatever we get in this life are based on our past karma. So, accusing that Krishna does not clear our Struggles is wrong.
For example, if you are destined for a sales job, you will not get other jobs whatever you try.
However, as a girl, your wish to fulfill your responsibilities for your family are genuine and you are a deserving girl to be happy in life.
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At the same time, we have to admit that all of are us controlled by our past karma. Only because of this past karma, some people earn more with just small or no efforts, but some others earn very small or nothing even if they work hard.
Right now, you have been destined for a sales job. However, if you learn and practice the soft skills that are required to get job in the software industry and continuously apply for related companies, you can get a job in that industry.
If you do not get a job in a big company, try for start ups or small set ups initially and gain experience in it. Later try for big companies after gaining sufficient experience.
Even after joining the job, you should keep on updating yourself in latest developments in your career field. Because every field is changing fast.
Register your Profile in the genuine and popular Job sites that are used by the employers.
As far as your marriage is concerned, more disappointments – more purification from the past karma. You may have mangal dosha or any other dosha or any planet weakness or negativity in your horoscope. When you face some failures in your attempts to get married initially, these disappointments act as the PARIHARS (remedy) for your dosha. So, such failures purify us from negativities that will one day give success though it is a delayed success.
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That is why, I have been advising all to face the disappointments and problems patiently instead of accusing that Krishna does not clear our Struggles. By facing the disappointments again again, your dosha (or) negative karma in that aspect is cleared completely and hence all the barriers for your marriage will be cleared that paves the way for getting a good groom for marriage. That is why, I advise in my predictions also to delay the marriage if there are any doshas because more delay – more purification and hence good life.
Therefore, don’t get discouraged because of repeated failures. If you continue your efforts without much expectations, but, as a duty, you will get a boy who prefers only the character, not the money.
Therefore, continue your attempts to get a good groom through proper channels.
If you compare yourself with the outer world, you can understand that you are in better position compared to crores of other people who are leading a very pathetic life with mental and physical challenges.
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You are now accusing that Krishna does not clear Struggles without knowing the following realities.
You have a house to live; You have education; You have a job to earn though it is not your favourite job; You have good parents; Your parents atleast have a career to earn something;
You are somehow living in this world safely.
Just think of those who do not have a house to live; Not even a single meal daily to eat; no good clothes to wear; no hygienic surroundings; no security for their dignity, etc, etc.
Whenever I come across mentally and visually challenged persons, I voluntarily do some monetary help or buy some goods and give. Because, they teach me great lessons that even the scriptures can not. I thank Krishna for having given me a birth with good brain and healthy body without any major defects. I also pray for those persons to Krishna because when we pray for others, we get rid of our ego and we sacrifice our selfishness.
In India, there is no electricity and toilet to many families. Just compare yourself with those families.
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Just think beyond the cities. There is a separate world of suffering in the villages. But, those people lead a happy life in villages in spite of deficiencies, because, they do not fix a “material target” to achieve in life.
Be relieved that you are in a better position. Stop accusing that Krishna does not clear our Struggles!
Krishna has given you many blessings like good health and a secured place to live; You do not think of them. Use those blessings and grow in life. Why should you accuse Krishna?
What the hell is going to happen if you remain unmarried? You can lead a peaceful life if you are unmarried. Krishna is double merciful on a person whom He keeps unmarried. Because, Krishna has avoided giving burdens to that person. Of course, we may have to answer the persons who are asking about marriage. It is not an issue. Just tell that you like to advance n devotionallife and other needs will be fulfilled by Krishna for you.
You have some needs to be fulfilled. It may happen in future if your karma allows it or Krishna okays it.
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You have to take sincere efforts and continue to concentrate in other responsibilities of life.
Even if the expected things do not happen, you should take it as the effect of karma, and continue to live as a duty.
Whether the expected things happen or not, just fill your life with the thoughts, practices and worship of Krishna. See the real happiness in it.
Krishna will never let His devotees down.
But, the process to elevate a devotee is the causeless mercy and discretion of Krishna. He only knows which is favorable and which is not favorable for your devotional growth.
Understanding this, make your life happy with the available things and the hope in the mercy of Lord.
Hope you are now clear whether accusing that Krishna does not clear our Struggles wrong.
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